Asking the waitress

[Drinkingoutofthecups]

Hello everyone,

 

I'm new here and I had a question and wanted to get the opinion of others.

 

 

So there's this girl that I really like and I've had a crush on her for a long time but I never really had the chance to talk to her one on one. I found out through a friend of mine she is waitressing at a local restaurant in my town. I plan on going there to see if I can talk to her. I was curious, would it be weird to give her my number the first time I go there or should I wait until I go there again? Also are there any suggestions I can do to flirt with her that will set me apart from the other guys who will more than likely try to hit on her.

 

 

Thanks for your thoughts and opinions

[TXGuy]

Perhaps some others will be along to give you some tips on how to implement your plan.

 

My suggestion would be to drop the plan entirely. Unless you are really smooth (if you were you would not be posting here), hitting on waitresses isn't a good move. There are several reasons not to hit on women while they are doing their jobs. I'll list a few:

- She gets hit on constantly (assuming she is average looking or better). I'm sure it gets tiresome.

- Regardless of how she feels about you (even she doesn't like you), she will tend to be friendly because that is part of her job. So it will be hard to read any signals from her.

- Picking up guys at work is probably frowned upon at her restaurant, so you don't want to get her in trouble.

- She probably has a bunch of other things to do and would rather not be distracted by a well intentioned, but personal space invading, customer.

 

I'm sure there are others.

 

If you have had a crush on her for a while, you probably know of her outside of her job. If you want to pursue her, try one of the other places you know her from.

[joseb]

The worst time to hit on her is when she is waitressing.

Almost guaranteed to fail.

 

Can you "bump into her" some other way?

[JustGettingBy]

If she knows who you are, talking to her at the restaurant with a minute or two of small talk to get to know her a little better might work, but making a move there is probably a bad idea.

 

Is there any chance you could tell your mutual friend to create a situation away from her work where you could make your move?

[smudge21]

At her job, she will be like most people - there to please (happens all the time when we think someone's interested in us because they're being over friendly). As you know of her outside of work, I would use the waitress thing as a way to open the door. Go there to eat with some friends and then say hi, mention you know her etc, be polite and charming but not overly keen, and then leave it there. Don't ask her out straight away and definitely not whilst she's working. She'll have had other guys ask her out whilst working so you don't want to be just another creepy customer.

Edited June 9, 2016 by smudge21
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[Offspring]

Do not hit on her at work! I worked in hospitality for a great many years, and the only people i dated were coworkers, not customers! It's true, you get hit on a lot, and become quite cynical at work.

 

Think of another way to make yourself known to her.

[preraph]

Here's the only two things I know about love and waitressing from personal experience.

 

An older ex-stripper acquaintance of mine hit on a good looking waiter at lunch while with me at my favorite restaurant by making ennuendos while showing way too much old fake boob. He looked like the way they look on ghost hunting shows when something touches you from behind but you know no one is there. I asked for him the next trip to the restaurant alone and apologized for her and he got massive compensatory tips from me from that time until he entered law school. He said, "It happens all the time." He did not enjoy it.

 

When I was a mere baby working as a waitress but living the exciting life at night, the crush who would become my lifelong crush/flame came into my restaurant. I was so embarrassed to be seen in uniform. I was happy he came, but very sad he saw me looking like that. Very sad. He did not ask me out. If he had I would have said, "I can't believe you want to date someone that looks like this."

[Escobar95]

Its not classy to hit on woman whilst their working. If you can try adding her on social media accounts and see where it leads.

 

- Sometimes you need to walk away, not to make someone else realize how worthy you are. But for you to understand and acknowledge your own self-worth.