My ex boyfriend got engaged to my ex friend, shouldn't be upset, but I am?

[AmyHershaw]

I've only been in one relationship and that lasted for nearly three months. I know that isn't long, but he was my first and I did get very attached to him especially since I lost my you know what to him. We split because I and a few others had suspicions that he had cheated on me with one of my best friends, seeing as he suddenly decided he wasn't interested in me anymore and stopped being affectionate with me yet he was seeing her loads and would only talk to her when we were all together. Plus, he didn't like how emotional the implant I had put in was making me (I'd only had it in for a month). He dumped me over text and blocked me on everything, so I can't contact him.

 

Two months later, one of my friends fell out with me as she started talking to my ex and she revealed to me she had been telling him everything I told her about him, so I became annoyed with her. She yelled at me, blocked me on everything, met up with him for the first time the next day and started dating him the same day (a friend of mine told me they'd met and were dating as she's got him on Facebook). One month later, they got engaged. He turned eighteen in April and she's turning the same age in July. They've been together for just over two months now. I know it's ridiculous of me to feel devastated and feel like I weren't good enough when apparently he's been saying how perfect she is and is the best thing that's happened to him all over social media. I feel betrayed by my ex friend and I don't know how to stop feeling this way.

[deadparrot]

I'm sorry. That must feel terrible.

 

That said, I know it doesn't feel like it now, but you'll have the last laugh. The loss of your "friend" or your ex, as neither of them sound like good people. A relationship between teenagers who get engaged after 2 months has "dumpster fire" written all over it.

[AmyHershaw]

Thank you so much for your reply, it's greatly appreciated. I just can't believe they changed from being two of the kindest people I know to what they are now in such a short period of time, I guess it just didn't take long for them to show their true colours. I doubt they will end up getting married, but you never know.

[preraph]

It's not at all ridiculous to feel angry and betrayed about this. I have had this situation more than one (minus the engagement) where women friends USED our friendship as an excuse to connect with a guy I'd been involved with and then went right on to betray every confidence I'd told them to further cement their relationship. In fact, I'm having a problem like that right now, I'm pretty sure and am having night mares about it.

 

You were betrayed by that friend, and should never let her back into your life because I will tell you that I am 63 and learned the hard way and more than once that if someone is willing to betray you once and you stick around, they'll do it even worse the next time. Block her and block him and don't look at their social media and torture yourself. Forget about them and put them both behind you. Their relationship is never going to last anyway. It's built on a shakey foundation of betrayal.

[AmyHershaw]

Thanks a lot for your reply and letting me know that I'm not being silly about this. I'm sorry that's happened to you, those people aren't true friends and you deserve a lot better! I won't let her back into my life, don't worry, not after how much she's hurt me and I won't be able to trust her again. I doubt it will last and that's so true.