SwordofFlame Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 I seem to go on a fair number of first dates with inexperienced women. They are usually brand new to online dating and/or haven't dated much or at all in the past. It usually never goes past three dates because I don't get the sense that they are interested in me. I could be wrong of course, but they never flirt or initiate anything. I do my best to flirt, but in general they act in a very platonic way. Just want your thoughts on this. Much in the same way that inexperienced men struggle because they don't really know what to do (or do the wrong things), is it the same for inexperienced women? Or have I been right all along in that they were just not interested in me.
smackie9 Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 Next time move in for a kiss at the end of the 2nd date. That's when you will know if they are just too nervous/clueless or not interested. 3
central Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 In my experience, the less experienced or inexperienced women show real interest if they are in fact interested. They don't put on a façade of "coolness." So, I'd guess these women really are not interested if they aren't showing any. If anything, they'd be acting nervous rather than distant.
Grapesofwrath Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 Does it not go past 3 dates because you don't ask for a 4th date or because they decline your invitation? A woman rarely goes out 4 times with a guy she isn't interested in.
kztar Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 I think when it comes to inexperienced women sometimes they are hard to read and play hard to get. I have a friend who is very inexperienced and she plays HARD to get. She complains that it's hard to find a man but I mean she has so many obstacles in the way that it scares everyone away. I tell her all the time she's going to have a hard time doing that. Most of the time she actually likes the guy but she just plays hard to get. When she is not interested she will let it be known RIGHT away.
Miss Peach Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 Not sure about the experience side of things but I am very reserved IRL when getting to know someone. I don't get swept away when meeting men even though I may be attracted to them and want to see them again. I am just not one to initiate touchy feely stuff. I know this has probably lost me a few dates but it's how I am and am able to have my pick of men without having to change this. I do agree with the previous poster about the kiss. If she won't even kiss you then IMO there isn't enough interest. I am always willing to kiss a man I find attractive. I actually want this myself because it helps me test sexual chemistry in a way I can't having a coffee or a meal. As to the first or second date - I've had men attempt it on both. Though with the ones who do it on the first tend to just do a quick peck on the lips and then move in for open mouth kissing on the second. Some guys start the peck or the open mouth kiss on the second.
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