Bad experience

[gandalfgreat]

Hi all firstly i want to thank this community for being here and giving advices to help people move on easier with relationships..

 

I want to share a bit of my story in the seek of some advices..

So i had like a 5 year relationship.. it was pretty serious we moved in fast together and spent most of this time together.. In our time i saw many bad things from her that she was doing to me and didnt care such as still talking with her exes, told me many lies and stuff like that.. i cared for her much so i was able to forgive her every single time and stayed..

 

Now recently like 3 months ago we broke up.. she started again talking with some guys went out more often and i decided to put an end to it.. after we broke up she constantly contacted me like 1-2 times a week.. saying that she still loves me and stuff but would hurt me if we get back together.. this went on for like 1-2 months.. in this time she told me she was stayin at her moms and all that she did was to go to her job..

 

After 1 month i see her with a new guy.. spoke with that guy found out that she was talkin with him like 1-2 weeks while she was still with me and immediately after we broke up she moved with him in his house.. he was angry also on her because she lied him also telling him she didnt contact me anymore and stuff like that..

 

After 1 week i start getting calls from this dude she is with.. telling me a lot of bad stuff about her.. and telling me she is constantly lying to him that she speaks with like 1-2 more guys and stuff like that..he was asking me if she cheated on me and how was she with me and all that

I told him a bit.. but i told him that its not my problem anymore they need to deal themself now because i longer care with all the lies she told me

 

Still he kept contacting me weekly with the same issues and questions and complaining about her.. but they are still together and live together..

 

I had to block like 7 numbers on my phone.. just to stop seeing all the pointless messages and calls he or she was giving me.. so they've been blocked like 1-2 weeks.. i tought its all over and i recently unblocked all the numbers because i dont like having like 10 numbers blocked on my phone.. i couldent believe that as soon as i unblocked them like a few hours later i start seeing again calls from him..

 

So what is the right move here ? I am able to move on because i realised she is really a horrible person and aint worth it.. but what do i do regarding all these calls and messages i get.. i should just ignore them i guess and dont answer no ?

 

Thanks for reading and sorry if my english is not that good

[keiji]

Absolutely ignore those messages and calls. They will only stir up negative feelings, which is the last thing you need right now.

 

And man, by "losing" that girl you won the lottery.

[salparadise]

I had to block like 7 numbers on my phone.. just to stop seeing all the pointless messages and calls he or she was giving me.. so they've been blocked like 1-2 weeks.. i tought its all over and i recently unblocked all the numbers because i dont like having like 10 numbers blocked on my phone.. i couldent believe that as soon as i unblocked them like a few hours later i start seeing again calls from him..

 

Easy, just block all of the numbers––permanently. This is so obvious... I wonder why you unblocked them in the first place. "dont like having like 10 numbers blocked" is not rational because there's no downside whatsoever. Then you start a thread, as if it's too complicated to figure out without help. I think you unblocked the numbers because you're attracted to the drama, like commiserating with this guy, and like complaining about how the whacky pair won't leave you alone.