nirvanax90 Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 my girlfriend and I broke up about 2 weeks ago. she told me that she needed space and that she thought we didn't have much in common plus our age difference is quite big. shes 10 years older than I am. I told her that if that's the way she felt then we should leave it at that before it would get worse. she cried and told me that she missed me when I wasn't around but that she feels like there isn't enough to go on. she insisted we still see each other which I replied it wasn't going to happen. I told her I was moving on with my life and I wished her the best. after 2 weeks, yesterday on my day off she texted me asking if I was available to meet and talk in person. I told her I had made plans for the day, she told me how she feels like shes not my favorite person anymore lol. she wished me a good day and all I replied was "cya" I am willing to move on with my life, but she keeps calling me and reaching out even after all she told me. what is going on?
Blanco Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 What's going on is that you're seeing her messages because you haven't blocked her yet. 4
SammySammy Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 Selfishness. Arrogance. She told you she "needed space", but then she's upset that she's "not the most important person in your life" anymore. You should be offended she even thought she could have her "space" and keep you on a leash like a whimpering little dog. I'm proud of you for standing up and being a man. Letting her know that she was free to go and you were moving on. Now, all you have to do is completely cut her off. Whatever it takes, end all contact with someone who thought she could disrespect you like that. Take you for granted. You deserve better. 4
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 8, 2016 Author Posted June 8, 2016 (edited) Selfishness. Arrogance. She told you she "needed space", but then she's upset that she's "not the most important person in your life" anymore. You should be offended she even thought she could have her "space" and keep you on a leash like a whimpering little dog. I'm proud of you for standing up and being a man. Letting her know that she was free to go and you were moving on. Now, all you have to do is completely cut her off. Whatever it takes, end all contact with someone who thought she could disrespect you like that. Take you for granted. You deserve better. that's exactly how I felt. I don't know what her intentions are anymore, I feel like she is playing games or maybe she feels superior for what ever reason. she is very contradicting and I just have no option but to completely cut her off and begin something more meaningful. Edited June 8, 2016 by nirvanax90
toastytiger Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 I was just about to ask a similar question on here. My ex who broke up with me 5 weeks ago texted to hang out two weeks ago and I said I was busy. Then asked again just today, where I said I'm not interested because we're broken up. What's the point? They ended it, so what the heck else do they want?? It makes me angry because it just creates so much confusion. Sounds like you're doing a good job taking care of yourself!
smudge21 Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 Maybe she's changed her mind - the time apart has made her realise what she truly wants and now would like to give it another go, apologise to you and start again. Maybe. Of course, she could also just be looking for that standard ego boost and wanting you as "a friend" in her life when she feels like it... but if she's reaching out, then surely it's worth asking what she wants. If she still feels there's no relationship here then carry on walking away. For me, I'd like to know.
juniorrocha Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 Maybe she's changed her mind - the time apart has made her realise what she truly wants and now would like to give it another go, apologise to you and start again. 2 weeks are not enough for that. She's still in that phase where she misses him no matter what. You should take more time apart from her. You need to see things clearly and so does she. If for some reason you went back to your old relationship, she would do the same thing in matter of days, maybe weeks, and then another break up. Take your time, heal and move on.
stillafool Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 she insisted we still see each other which I repli what is going on? She's regretting her decision to let you go. You did the right thing. Block her so she can't contact you and move on with your life.
stillafool Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 Selfishness. Arrogance. She told you she "needed space", but then she's upset that she's "not the most important person in your life" anymore. You should be offended she even thought she could have her "space" and keep you on a leash like a whimpering little dog. I'm proud of you for standing up and being a man. Letting her know that she was free to go and you were moving on. Now, all you have to do is completely cut her off. Whatever it takes, end all contact with someone who thought she could disrespect you like that. Take you for granted. You deserve better. I completely agree with the above but; Why haven't you blocked her from contacting you?
keiji Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 It's probably a "dog in the manger" case. She expected you get on your knees and beg, but you didn't, so she tested the waters to see if she still had your attention. I think your reaction to the breakup has been perfect, so I'll go with the other posters and suggest you to block her. She made a decision and she must take responsibility for it.
Toodaloo Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 She isn't getting your attention... that is all this is. Just ignore.
sfd'swife Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 She's playing mind games. She sounds like someone who doesn't know what she wants. It's time to move on.
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 8, 2016 Author Posted June 8, 2016 It's probably a "dog in the manger" case. She expected you get on your knees and beg, but you didn't, so she tested the waters to see if she still had your attention. I think your reaction to the breakup has been perfect, so I'll go with the other posters and suggest you to block her. She made a decision and she must take responsibility for it. she is definitely trying to see a reaction or response from me. I don't know why it has come to this, our relation was nice for quite some time. but ive got a good read on her. I don't think her games are going anywhere. her actions are irrelevant to my happiness.
Simon Phoenix Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 Some of you really need to figure out how to use the block feature on your phone. Beats second-guessing everything everytime one of them breathes in your direction. 3
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 9, 2016 Author Posted June 9, 2016 based on what she told me I should definitely do that. it just confuses me when she reaches out of the blue to "meet" and talk.
privategal Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 based on what she told me I should definitely do that. it just confuses me when she reaches out of the blue to "meet" and talk. It seems like a part of you might want to hear her out. You dont seem upset about the breakup at all though and seem to have gotten to indifference toward her very quickly. If it is that easy to get over, Id say deep down you may have not seen it working out too. She either broke up hoping you'd fight for it and talk her out of it, or she didnt like the way it ended and wants to have more closure, if she was playing games she more than likely wouldnt have waited 2 weeks to reach out. Imo, if you feel best to have a chat...do so and if you feel shes disingenuous at tgat point...ask for strict NC then block. Up to you.
ChancesAre24 Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 Some of you really need to figure out how to use the block feature on your phone. Beats second-guessing everything everytime one of them breathes in your direction. I totally agree! For the first time I am blocking the person that is not good for my life and its freeing! I recommend it! Does it make the hurt easier to bear ? Not exactly but sometimes you have to know the right thing for your life and just do it.
Blanco Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 Some of you really need to figure out how to use the block feature on your phone. Beats second-guessing everything everytime one of them breathes in your direction. Too many people view blocking a phone number as something reserved only for when the other person won't stop texting. What I've found from personal experience is that it's liberating to block, whether you were getting constant texts or one text every two months from this person. It's a lot harder to disengage when you're sporadically trying to decode the meaning of their sporadic texts. And, I assume, you end up allocating too much mental energy thinking about when you'll hear from them again. Blocking removes that possibility and frees your mind to focus on other things, such as yourself. 1
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Posted June 10, 2016 It seems like a part of you might want to hear her out. You dont seem upset about the breakup at all though and seem to have gotten to indifference toward her very quickly. If it is that easy to get over, Id say deep down you may have not seen it working out too. She either broke up hoping you'd fight for it and talk her out of it, or she didnt like the way it ended and wants to have more closure, if she was playing games she more than likely wouldnt have waited 2 weeks to reach out. Imo, if you feel best to have a chat...do so and if you feel shes disingenuous at tgat point...ask for strict NC then block. Up to you. very lovely perspective and you are 100 % percent correct. the reason it seems like I don't seem upset was because it was very random how she decided to break up with me and telling me all these farewell, goodbye conversations when we weren't really having any big issues. it was her that brought it up, the way I see it is she was expressing what she really feels inside and I simply cannot force her or anybody to change their feelings. I do know deep inside it wasn't or it isn't going to work out so I decided to go on without begging or making this situation depressing. I have decided to move on but she still reaches out, I don't see why I need to block her because I don't really want to go back. but it kinda of makes me wonder why she keeps coming back when im sure she knows its not going to work.
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 10, 2016 Author Posted June 10, 2016 Are you responding? Generally - when you completely ignore someone long enough - they go away. She may be looking for an ego feed if you reply to her. It forces you to think of her when she contacts. It's a selfish move on her part. agree. ive been cutting her off. our relationship lately had been fights, arguments and make up sex. im bored and tired of this cycle.
Simon Phoenix Posted June 10, 2016 Posted June 10, 2016 agree. ive been cutting her off. our relationship lately had been fights, arguments and make up sex. im bored and tired of this cycle. Then block her. This isn't rocket science. To end a cycle you have to shut off the flow.
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