gimlynick Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Hey people, I'm kinda confused by the 'hints' I get from a female,single colleague. So, I'm single since march, since beginning of May me and a colleague started talking/chatting more frequently, I dropped a couple of hints that I find her attractive and she reacted very positive with other comments. Now... I've asked her 10 days back to do something together, she replied positive. I invited her to 2 work parties ( we work in different shifts ) of my shift, but she didn't want to go because she had stuff to do or had an early shift day after. Now, couple of days ago there was a championship volleybal for my job far away in the ( small ) country, she was going with some of her colleagues. She asked me to join them, and said explicitly that they were sleeping the night before over there in a hostel. She asked me multiple times to join her over there. But for me this was allmost impossible + also super awkward because well... The other colleagues don't really expect me over there. So now, 2 days back I asked her to go wall climbing. She didn't really go into it and said that the day I invited her for was her only evening free on that week. So I kinda said 'Well, if it isn't happening on that free day it will never happen'. She said 'hey, you don't have to see it this way...' I'm kinda confused. We see eachother very regular at work, but over there it is very hard to talk because there is allways a lot of people around us. We have managed a couple of times to talk somewhere in isolation. All colleagues tell me I should go for her but... She is the hottest girl at work ( for real, all colleagues are crazy about her ). There are not that many singles, so we dating is kinda an obvious thing. We both have had serious relations before. Her last one finished 9 months ago. She has talked with me about the fact that she didn't get laid in those 9 months. I think that she is interested but... I don't want to come over silly and ask her 20 times on a date. I don't really know what to do OR should I accept that she isn't that much into me because she didn't want to join me wall climbing on her day off ( when she really had nothing to do ). I mean... If she asked me I should try to cancel everything to join her. So I feel like 1) she is playing the hard to get game a little bit 2) she isn't that interested and maybe just wanted a **** on that weekend with the volleybal competition. Help
VeveCakes Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 My advice is don't date co workers. If you must, why can't you call her to ask her out? Why does everything have to be work related? Call her and ask her on a date, if she waivers then you have your answer.
Versacehottie Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Maybe it's the wall climbing that she objects to and not you? For some girls, they might not want to do that on a first date because it could be awkward for them (sweaty, exercise clothing and general awkwardness of not being good at climbing a wall and having a guy you like see you like that). Sounds like you both have made decent effort. She does sound like she is not willing to put dating you as top priority yet. That might be healthy or not that interested. Only way to tell is to ask her again--be a little more flexible in terms of what activity it is and when in order to get your answer about whether she wants to date you. Good luck
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