lexx_26 Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 There's this guy I started talking with on tinder, and let me tell you, I was the one messaging first. We shared common interest in most things and talked for short periods of time but mostly daily. He would make jokes about how we really like the same things and we should get married or those things, and I didn't really took it seriously but though "hey, he seems interested in me too". After half a month, I decided to ask for his number since he wasn't saying anything and he gave it to me saying "I was about to ask the same". The thing is, I'm the one who started messaging first once we exchanged numbers, and one friend of mine said to me "you should wait and see if he messages first if you don't text him". It has been almost a week since the last conversation we had and he hasn't written me. Does it mean he has lost interest in me? Should I be the one writing him? We haven't even met irl yet and I don't even know if there'll be a chance of him asking me on a date .
deadparrot Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 It sounds like he wasn't that into it. If someone's into you, they're not going to sit on their hands for a week. 3
Zahara Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 1. Two weeks without asking you out 2. You always being the initiator 3. Another week has gone by and he has not written you or asked you out He's not interested. He's likely meeting other women and you're just someone he gets attention from once in awhile. Go out and date others. A guy that is interested in you will show you interest. 3
SugarLips72 Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Tinder and online dating in general is full of flakes. He could have lost interest. He could be married or in a relationship. He could be a player looking to get laid. Don't dwell on it. Let guys initiate contact with you. Don't chase them. If one messages you who is just not solely into getting laid suggest a drink or coffee to meet. Tinder is fun but most of the guys on there are looking for a quick hook up. It can be a fun app. 1
Cristoforo Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 (edited) I'm not sure what you're looking for exactly but based on the fact you are agonizing over a Tinder match you must be looking for a relationship or something more serious than just a casual thing. In my opinion if you are looking for a relationship you are going to the wrong place. Tinder is not for that and I have yet to hear about a long term serious relationship that started on Tinder. Get off Tinder. This guy isn't interested and like the majority of guys on there, they aren't looking for serious dating. If a guy doesn't ask for your number shortly after meeting you on Tinder, he's definitely not interested and is probably talking to a handful of other matches. I tried Tinder before, honestly just looking for casual hook ups, and if I was interested in a girl I'd ask for her number within a day of when I first messaged her. The fact that he didn't even message you first is a bad sign as well. Move on from this one. Edited June 7, 2016 by Cristoforo 2
Grapesofwrath Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 A week on Tinder is a like a year IRL. If he hasn't reached out to you in that time, it's safe to say he is not interested. He has probably surmised that you are interested in more than just a hook-up, so he's happy to get some attention from you via text but isn't going to pursue. 1
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