Katie3 Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 Wasn't really sure where else to put this I have a friend I've known since college. There's always been some sort of weird chemistry where we always just kind of "got" each other. Kind of one of those ships passing in the night kind of things though. One of us was never in the right place at the right time, and then it was too late. But that's not the point of this post. I texted him the other day about something we both enjoy, and when he replied to me. His reply "ironic you texted me, I was just looking through all the photos in your ____ album on Facebook before my flight took off." This would probably seem normal...except that album in Facebook is 6 years old. I haven't ever added new pics to it. And no one has liked or commented on the pics--so it wasn't generated in his news feed. I also don't post on Facebook often, so nothing I posted was in his news feed to prompt him to go to my page. That means he had to have gone to my profile, and started going through my pics. Does anyone else think that's weird? And why would you announce to your friend you just creeped their old Facebook album?
preraph Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 Sounds like he likes you and sounds like you already kind of knew that, right? And you're in touch with him. If you're interested, he probably is too. 2
GunslingerRoland Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 I notice you mention a flight, is there a correlation there? For example if I'm going on vacation somewhere I might remember seeing Facebook photo's someone else posted a few years ago to the same place and go look it up and check them out.
joseb Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 Maybe the Facebook anniversary thing kicked in (is he in any of the photos?) 2
basil67 Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 Maybe he's weird like me: I look at heaps of people's old albums. 3
Raena Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 Maybe he's weird like me: I look at heaps of people's old albums. I sometimes do too but I don't usually rat myself out for it... lol OP, he must have been thinking about you and the next best thing was to check out your profile. Old, new, doesn't matter... if it's open for your friends to see, any of them could go looking.
Author Katie3 Posted June 6, 2016 Author Posted June 6, 2016 Maybe the Facebook anniversary thing kicked in (is he in any of the photos?) He and I became friends in September, so it wasn't that Facebook anniversary thing, nor did we have any "you have a memory with so and so" things Facebook sends you...because Facebook woulda reminded me too. So Facebook did not alert him of my existence. He is not in any of the photos. The pics were of cars, not a vacation destination, and crappy low resolution old cell phone pics I took in high school (which seemed like a good idea at the time). They haven't been updated since. Again, the album is 6 years old. There's probably a dozen newer, more recent albums on page since then. It just seemed weird. Like why would you rat yourself out for creeping on a friends facebook?
Emilia Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Because why else would you be friends with someone else, unless you were interested in them? How is that 'creeping'? It's not like he broke into your facebook account. 1
PegNosePete Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 I sometimes look at people's old photos when I'm bored. It's not creepy, it's normal. If you don't want people looking at them, delete them. 2
planb1973 Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 He was board waiting for a plane, thinking about you, so he was going through your FB. Whats the big deal. I see it more as a compliment that he is interested in your life. You are after all on FB to share yourself with anyone you friend, right?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 He and I became friends in September, so it wasn't that Facebook anniversary thing, nor did we have any "you have a memory with so and so" things Facebook sends you...because Facebook woulda reminded me too. So Facebook did not alert him of my existence. He is not in any of the photos. The pics were of cars, not a vacation destination, and crappy low resolution old cell phone pics I took in high school (which seemed like a good idea at the time). They haven't been updated since. Again, the album is 6 years old. There's probably a dozen newer, more recent albums on page since then. It just seemed weird. Like why would you rat yourself out for creeping on a friends facebook? How does this get blamed on the friend ?? This is either a function of your having Facebook in the first place, OR it is a function of your having left those photos online for all these years. Pretend I'd seen your photos online just now, after you clearly posted them there years ago, and didn't bother to take them down. The only difference is my not previously having had an avenue through which to tell you that I'd been looking at them. So why is the friend creepy in a scenario where you are indifferent to the internet stranger who passed-through stealthfully? 1
dichotomy Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Maybe he's weird like me: I look at heaps of people's old albums. Thank the God's there is no way to know all the looking and stalking that takes place on FB pages - not that I would ever do that.. nope.
Buddhist Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Who cares? It probably has no significant meaning. Social media just fuels anxiety with people going nuts over every innocuous comment, detail. If this was the 80's and your friend told you over the phone 'oh, thats weird I was just looking at our school yearbook', would you be trying to solve 'why'.....? No. Because people get nostalgic and do stuff like that.
joseb Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Because why else would you be friends with someone else, unless you were interested in them? How is that 'creeping'? It's not like he broke into your facebook account. Exactly. If you put up photos it's so people who you add as friends can see them isn't it? 1
Lady Hamilton Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 I look through people's old Facebook albums all the time. I assume if they didn't want me to see it, it would be private or not on there. I'm not sure what the big deal is. 1
bachdude Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 I agree with the other posters. Isn't that what the photos are for, so your Facebook friends can look at them? If you don't want people looking at them, I suggest taking them down.
Author Katie3 Posted June 9, 2016 Author Posted June 9, 2016 Point of clarification: I wasn't saying it was creepy, rather just weird. I wouldn't admit Facebook stalking to anyone but my best friend. Not someone I don't talk to that often. He's also the friend of this level of distance who always remembers my birthday, every single birthday, and texts me. It's really sweet, but it's very divergent from other male friends.
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 Katie3, I think you take FB too seriously. One of the problems with the newer generation is that they think the world actually revolves around social media, well it does to a point till the younger generation get good jobs and start their path in life and that is when they find out the FB is just Eye Wash and Noise. You post pictures on your FB and your guy friend looks at them, not a big deal, he is your friend.. and he mentions them... so what.. It's FB and isn't what life is really about. Isn't the relationship you have with guy more important, he remembers your B-Days each year and sends you a nice text.. that is what is important IMO... 1
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