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[AnotherOne.]

Hello, wonderful members of loveshack so far this is my second thread!

 

My girlfriend of 4 years and I, recently broke up (3 weeks ago). The reason why we had to take different paths was because she was chatting up other folks so I decided to call it off and I did. I have been in no contact since 2 weeks now I don't plan on calling her. Yesterday a buddy of mine gave me a call and told me that she is dating a new guy!!! I was really upset for a few hours and was planning to call her and give it her to life but then I decided not to because I would've broken the NC rule. I just want to know how can the love of my life jump to a different guy within 3weeks I just don't understand didn't she ever love me or care about my feelings? I need some supportive advice please thanks.

[NIGHT1985]

Hello, wonderful members of loveshack so far this is my second thread!

 

My girlfriend of 4 years and I, recently broke up (3 weeks ago). The reason why we had to take different paths was because she was chatting up other folks so I decided to call it off and I did. I have been in no contact since 2 weeks now I don't plan on calling her. Yesterday a buddy of mine gave me a call and told me that she is dating a new guy!!! I was really upset for a few hours and was planning to call her and give it her to life but then I decided not to because I would've broken the NC rule. I just want to know how can the love of my life jump to a different guy within 3weeks I just don't understand didn't she ever love me or care about my feelings? I need some supportive advice please thanks.

 

Women approach and deal with relationships different than guys. The relationship may just now be over for you, but it's most likely been over for her for some time now. She emotionally prepared herself to move on while still being with you, she most likely lined up a candidate for when she saw it coming.

[Jay1821]

Hey buddy I was in the same boat mine was a 7yr relationship but the fact is your ex just like mine and probably everyone else's exs they check out way before the break up so stick to the NC and that means know stalking social media nothing just dissappear ftom her life and focus on you remember your heart is a muscle so when in breaks it will heal good luck stay strong and keep it moving

[AnotherOne.]

Thank use for your prompt replies. I've been stalking her social media accounts here and there which I clearly know isn't doing me any good for healing purposes its just an traumatising act that she pulled on me out of the blue.

[Jay1821]

It was out of the blue for you but not for her like I said she checked out way before the break up but trust me when you go full NC wich means no social media you will feel a lot better in the long run trust me break ups suck when your the dumpee but you will be OK trust me life goes on keep your head up high

[AnotherOne.]

Do women regret or feel guilty of their actions in time? And call their ex to even apologies for their pathetic decisions?

[Jay1821]

Anything is possible but for the most part if they reach out its bc there new relationship is failing or they get lonely but most of the time it's just bread crumbs and will only leave you more heart broken if it's meant to be it will be but don't sit around hoping she will come back you just have to do you stop living in the past bc your future will pass you by

[PegNosePete]

she was chatting up other folks

She was doing this before you split up, so are you really surprised she is with someone new?

 

Tell your "buddy" that you don't want to hear any more news or updates about her. And stop stalking her social media. You're supposed to be in NC. This is NOT NC.

 

Do women regret or feel guilty of their actions in time? And call their ex to even apologies for their pathetic decisions?

No. Never. And nor do men either, just to remain neutral.

[AnotherOne.]

Whoops I didn't know I was breaking the no contact rule by stalking her.

And I think that's abit harsh I have a feeling she still misses me but she's enjoying her new honey moon love