itfigures Posted June 24, 2005 Posted June 24, 2005 He is TAKEN..Yet he still behaves like he is AVAILABLE..experience needed GEEZ...This question was so good that I thought I would post it as a new topic.....Who here has had experience with this sort of thing??? SOMEONE PLEASE!!! Answer this question: What are the signals that guys put out to show that they are "available"? ****and what if the bf seems to put out these signals whenever there are chicks milling about, yet he has a girlfriend? IS it POSSIBLE for said bf to still be in love or love his gf yet give out these "available"signals with no intention of following through???????//
laRubiaBonita Posted June 24, 2005 Posted June 24, 2005 it is possible he does not see this as serious a "relationship" as you? and just says things to appese you, but acts how ever he feels?
Author itfigures Posted June 24, 2005 Author Posted June 24, 2005 larubiabonita- Yes, I DO believe it is entirely possible, but why would he stay with me, talk about kids and marriage, the future, houses, etc for almost 2 years if that were the case....let me be clear here, I didnt initiate this relationship-he did. I didnt talk about babies and marriage, he did. The only thing I talked about was buying a house..... So sure, he could not be too into me, but then, why stay??? If what he seeks is anothers company, why not cut me loose??
laRubiaBonita Posted June 24, 2005 Posted June 24, 2005 i cannot say this is what he is feeling, but..... maybe he likes you fine and all, and you are his "wife type", so he wants to keep you around, maybe you are stable....and well, someone needs to clean the house and take care of those babies while he is out screwing around! What is he doing Tha Screams, "I am availiable"?
crazy_grl Posted June 24, 2005 Posted June 24, 2005 Originally posted by itfigures So sure, he could not be too into me, but then, why stay??? If what he seeks is anothers company, why not cut me loose?? Free and easy sex, knowing that he'll always have someone around to bang -- as long as he keeps talking marriage and babies, he gets some no matter how he treats her and now matter how many girls he's banging or trying to bang on the side. Some guys would kill for that! You're giving him a fantasy arrangement while sacrificing your own needs and self respect in the process.
BrotherAaron Posted June 24, 2005 Posted June 24, 2005 But wait! What exactly does he do that 'screams' "availability? Does he literally scream at people about how available he is, or what?
Author itfigures Posted June 24, 2005 Author Posted June 24, 2005 YES HE IS LITERALLY SCREAAAAMMMMMIIIINNNNNNGGGG.. No, here are some of his actions: Girls are about. BF takes EXTRA long around them...staying a little too long. Finding excuses to stay longer Stares non stop constantly puts himself in areas where there are chicks... ie it never fails, no matter where we are at, wherever there are girls, he makes a BEELINE towards them. Dept store: he goes to the isle restaurant: he chooses a seat that is right next to them grocery store: chooses the line that just happens to have the sluttiest dresser or the most chicks even if there is hardly anyone in the other line beach: sits practically ON TOP of the chicks...sits in the sand with dark shades on and focuses attent toward them but pretending to be looking at something else "availability" does not hold my hand in public hardly affectionate in public seems to clamor to get away from me whenever we enter anywhere (dept store etc.. see above for where he goes once inside) Pretends to be interested in some mundane thing but truly looking at girl from above object, behind racks etc....you KNOW what I mean, guys....you ALL do it....
noname Posted June 24, 2005 Posted June 24, 2005 Originally posted by itfigures He is TAKEN..Yet he still behaves like he is AVAILABLE..experience needed GEEZ...This question was so good that I thought I would post it as a new topic.....Who here has had experience with this sort of thing??? SOMEONE PLEASE!!! Answer this question: What are the signals that guys put out to show that they are "available"? ****and what if the bf seems to put out these signals whenever there are chicks milling about, yet he has a girlfriend? IS it POSSIBLE for said bf to still be in love or love his gf yet give out these "available"signals with no intention of following through???????// it would help if you were to list some of the "signals" that you are talking about. how does one behave like they are available? is he flirting or something?
laRubiaBonita Posted June 24, 2005 Posted June 24, 2005 Originally posted by itfigures YES HE IS LITERALLY SCREAAAAMMMMMIIIINNNNNNGGGG.. No, here are some of his actions: Girls are about. BF takes EXTRA long around them...staying a little too long. Finding excuses to stay longer Stares non stop constantly puts himself in areas where there are chicks... ie it never fails, no matter where we are at, wherever there are girls, he makes a BEELINE towards them. Dept store: he goes to the isle restaurant: he chooses a seat that is right next to them grocery store: chooses the line that just happens to have the sluttiest dresser or the most chicks even if there is hardly anyone in the other line beach: sits practically ON TOP of the chicks...sits in the sand with dark shades on and focuses attent toward them but pretending to be looking at something else "availability" does not hold my hand in public hardly affectionate in public seems to clamor to get away from me whenever we enter anywhere (dept store etc.. see above for where he goes once inside) Pretends to be interested in some mundane thing but truly looking at girl from above object, behind racks etc....you KNOW what I mean, guys....you ALL do it.... Lose this Dead wieght you are dragging around. He is dragging you down.
Pocky Posted June 24, 2005 Posted June 24, 2005 From your examples, I'd make the assumption that he's just keeping you around until something be considers better comes along. He's not into you or the relationship. If I were you and I was being treated like that by my boyfriend, I'd more than likely talk to him about it and if it didn't change I'd leave. That's how I'd handle it - is leaving even an option for you?
SoleMate Posted June 26, 2005 Posted June 26, 2005 Look at his ACTIONS, ignore the WORDS. (It's easy to lie with words, much harder with actions.) If you look at his actions, you will have your answer. Dump him quick and dirty, that's my advice.
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