kidm Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 He's bored sometimes and you're his entertainment/ego boost.
katiegrl Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 (edited) Yes, there are so many things going on as the title of this post suggests. There's this guy that has been texting me for over a month now. I haven't met him because whenever he asks me out, he either "forgets" or doesn't go through with it. The first couple of times I was upset, but then I started getting annoyed. We've had a ton of phone conversations which have been down right weird.. In our last conversation, he mentioned to me that he pretty much hates himself and that he feels a sense of loneliness.. which I don't understand since I've mentioned getting together 2 times?? I've told him that I liked him because he asked me, but as soon as I said it, he disappeared.. He's also guilt tripped me so many times for being busy and saying i'd call him back when I was free.. He has a habit of ignoring me, then coming back to me saying he misses me and misses talking to me..but then why is he ignoring me for days? -- **Could he really be dealing with some kind of depression? Or he just a big player? Instead of asking these questions, which you will never get answers to anyway, the question you should be asking is why the heck do you even care??? Come on now, this is ridiculous don't ya think? Imo, this is more on you, not him. He has shown you who he is, several times over. But yet YOU choose to keep hanging on. Again, that is on you girl. Move on for heaven's sake, seriously. I mean you have never even met the guy. And never will. Block delete next. DONE! Edited June 18, 2016 by katiegrl 1
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 Yes, there are so many things going on as the title of this post suggests. There's this guy that has been texting me for over a month now. I haven't met him because whenever he asks me out, he either "forgets" or doesn't go through with it. The first couple of times I was upset, but then I started getting annoyed. We've had a ton of phone conversations which have been down right weird.. In our last conversation, he mentioned to me that he pretty much hates himself and that he feels a sense of loneliness.. which I don't understand since I've mentioned getting together 2 times?? I've told him that I liked him because he asked me, but as soon as I said it, he disappeared.. He's also guilt tripped me so many times for being busy and saying i'd call him back when I was free.. He has a habit of ignoring me, then coming back to me saying he misses me and misses talking to me..but then why is he ignoring me for days? Could he really be dealing with some kind of depression? Or he just a big player? Here is a list of NOT-To-Do * Do not text a man more than 4-5 days before meeting. Any man not making plans to meet you within a couple of DAYS is a waste of your time * A man that 'forgets' he has a date with you is not worthy to hear your voice ever again or receive a text from you ever again. * Never EVER give a second chance to a man that stands you up. * Do not reply back ever to men that have ignored you. If you follow these rules you will meet BETTER men!
spiderowl Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 I wrote about this in my other post about a guy who I have been talking to recently. I met him online and we texted, even had a ton of phone conversations. But when it came time to hang out, or go on date, he would plan it, then never follow through.. He would either go missing or flake.. I wouldn't even get a phone call to tell me that he was cancelling.. I pathetically waited by my phone. The thing that is confusing me, is he continually contacts me to tell me how sorry he is. I know he's playing me for a fool and I have come to the conclusion that he isnt interested, or he has a girlfriend. But why would he even spend all this time trying to get to know me, call me every night to have 1 hour conversations, tell me he likes me, tells me he's serious.. but flakes on me? There are some guys who go online to chat and flirt. They enjoy it. They are just playing really. I'm sure they don't really think about what they are doing, that the person they are chatting to might think something would come of it. You need to get good at spotting these guys. They will be flirty and get round to talking about sex eventually (because they enjoy the way it makes them feel). They will not get round to meeting though. They will come up with reasons like ''not ready', 'have trust issues', 'busy'. The bottom line is they are online for fun not with any intention to have a relationship.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 Sometimes we think someone is really nice or just misunderstood, when in reality they are selfish and uncaring. The reality of your situation is that you are being disrespected by the guy. He is using you and if you keep talking to him you are going to get hurt, sorry but that is the truth.
Author kittyxo Posted June 21, 2016 Author Posted June 21, 2016 Thank you everyone for the input! It's all starting to make sense now. I wanted to update everyone on what's going on now. So the last time we spoke on Friday, he told me that he wasn't happy with himself and just a bunch of guilt tripping.. He just texted me tonight asking me if we were cool? He then went on to say that he missed our date because he went out of town alone, and said he got into a huge fight with someone randomly.. He then left me a missed call and then texted me saying "wow you just shut me down like that.. is that how it is?" I really didn't wanna pick up his phone call because now this is just getting WEIRD! He seems emotionally and mentally unstable.. not to mention abusive.
frus69 Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 I've met quite some guys who go cold themselves first then just when you are about to move on, come right back giving bunch of breadcrumbs, or act like they don't know what you are on about, or worse: blame you for not being too interested. And then want another shot. Keep moving and don't look back girl.
Jabron1 Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 I'm not even kidding, I was going to reply that this guy will probably always flake on you after reading your first post. Then I carry on reading to see that he has flaked on you for more than a month. Flakes are flakes. And flakes are gonna flake. You should have just dumped him the moment he stood you up. The 'why' is ultimately unimportant. You'll drive yourself mad worrying about that. Lesson learned, and move on. Don't let people disrespect you like that in future.
Toodaloo Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 What do I do in this situation to remain calm? You accept that this date is not going to happen. That if he calls again you should ignore him because this guy does not have you very high on his radar and if it starts with him being so rude it will only get worse. As for remaining calm... why on earth would you be upset anyway? Far better to get upset about starving children in African countries or the terrible things that are happening to women in the middle east, or puppy farms, or... a thousand other things that if changed would make the world a better place... Getting upset because a flakey bloke, well, flaked... seriously its not worth it and really over dramatic... CUT HIM OFF. The reason why guys like that continue to behave this way is because girls like you let them!
joseb Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 As for remaining calm... why on earth would you be upset anyway? Far better to get upset about starving children in African countries or the terrible things that are happening to women in the middle east, or puppy farms, or... a thousand other things that if changed would make the world a better place... Getting upset because a flakey bloke, well, flaked... seriously its not worth it and really over dramatic... Well said. First world problem this. OP you haven't even seen this guy, who knows who or what his situation is, probably a catfish, all you know is he is a flake and a time waster, so I don't know why you keep entertaining him.
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