kittyxo Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 Let's keep this short and sweet.. lol This guy called me on Wednesday to ask me out on a date for Saturday. He told me that he would call me on Friday to confirm when he got tickets.. Saturday comes around and I don't hear from him at all.. We texted a bit Friday morning and he said that he wasn't going to flop on plans for Saturday.. I called him Saturday but he didn't pick up.. I made plans anyways to go out with my friends because there was no way I was going to sit at home waiting.. Then last night at around 1am, I received a msg from him saying that his friends took him to a different city and that he was sorry and that he'd make it up to me..I didn't really reply back because I was upset and felt a little dumb.. What do I do in this situation to remain calm?
BaileyB Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 You go out with your friends and forget about this guy... That was a rude and inconsiderate thing to do. If someone did this to me, there would not be a "second" date. 8
preraph Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 Communication is just too easy for his excuse to hold water. He's irresponsible. Blow him off. 7
Scarlett.O'hara Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 He told me that he would call me on Friday to confirm when he got tickets.. Saturday comes around and I don't hear from him at all.. Strike one.. he didn't keep his word. he said that he wasn't going to flop on plans for Saturday.. Strike two.. he let you down again. I called him Saturday but he didn't pick up.. Strike three.. he ignored you without so much as a courtesy text to save you wasting your time. Shows a lack of respect. Then last night at around 1am, I received a msg from him saying that his friends took him to a different city and that he was sorry and that he'd make it up to me 1am!! How rude and disrespectful can you get, also his excuse was utterly pathetic. You have every right to feel insulted and upset by this. You aren't even in a relationship with him and already he is showing you his bad side. Right now he should be trying to make a good impression, the fact he is doing the opposite is a huge red flag. Imagine what it would be like to be in a relationship with someone who did things like this all the time, it would be miserable. The basis for a good relationship with anyone is respect. What do I do in this situation to remain calm? I wouldn't want to give him the satisfaction of knowing you were hurt or that he could get away with that rubbish so I would ghost him and never respond to him again. It makes a point without wasting any energy on him. You teach people how to treat you. If you let him "make it up to you" he will think what he did was ok. Just bare that in mind whatever you decide to do. 3
Buddhist Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 Forget him. He flaked, anything he has to say now is just an excuse. What? He couldn't text you Sat morning with this information instead of standing you up and ignoring your contact? Don't be a sucker, he went out with someone else and then fed you a line so he can keep you as a backup. 3
frus69 Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 What a terrible lie haha Id believe it more if he said he had a car accident. Truth is someone else came along and he flaked in you. Now that person didn't work out you are his plan B 1
whichwayisup Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 Let's keep this short and sweet.. lol This guy called me on Wednesday to ask me out on a date for Saturday. He told me that he would call me on Friday to confirm when he got tickets.. Saturday comes around and I don't hear from him at all.. We texted a bit Friday morning and he said that he wasn't going to flop on plans for Saturday.. I called him Saturday but he didn't pick up.. I made plans anyways to go out with my friends because there was no way I was going to sit at home waiting.. Then last night at around 1am, I received a msg from him saying that his friends took him to a different city and that he was sorry and that he'd make it up to me..I didn't really reply back because I was upset and felt a little dumb.. What do I do in this situation to remain calm? He could have easily texted you his plans first and made plans with you for another time, instead he brushed you off knowing full well he left you hanging about those tickets and Sat. night. You've done the right thing by not calling him back. He's a jerk and not worth your time. Forget him.
mortensorchid Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 Yes, keep calm and carry on. Without him, that is. He's not considerate enough to let you know of changes and he's not that into you. 1
Author kittyxo Posted June 7, 2016 Author Posted June 7, 2016 Doesn't his phone work in other cities? Apparently his phone was dead.. but the weird thing is he said he was trying to charge his phone in his car.. Part of me thinks he went with a girl or possibly his girlfriend and was hiding in the car trying to text me..
tinkerbell16 Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Apparently his phone was dead.. but the weird thing is he said he was trying to charge his phone in his car.. Part of me thinks he went with a girl or possibly his girlfriend and was hiding in the car trying to text me.. Listen to that part of you. He is an inconsiderate as$. Move on. 1
ChickiePops Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Apparently his phone was dead.. but the weird thing is he said he was trying to charge his phone in his car.. Part of me thinks he went with a girl or possibly his girlfriend and was hiding in the car trying to text me.. Eww who cares?? He's a loser.
Versacehottie Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Apparently his phone was dead.. but the weird thing is he said he was trying to charge his phone in his car.. Part of me thinks he went with a girl or possibly his girlfriend and was hiding in the car trying to text me.. So he isn't upset that he wasted two tickets--which he would have bought on friday, right? So basically he is trying to get you to believe that he was out of cell service for over 36 hours? My guess is he never bought the tickets or you would have heard from him friday or even if he's spacey and late about stuff on saturday am. If his phone was really dead, when he called after the weekend passed, he would have been a bit frantic or bummed that he wasted 2 tickets because of not being able to do the "final" step and get in touch with you. So yes, he either took someone else or just didn't go and purposely blew you off. oh, and just because he said he was trying to charge his phone in the car, doesn't mean he was doing it. All you need is to get up to about 2-4% and you can shoot out a quick text. That would only take a few minutes or less of charging. He is just saying that for effect to build up the excuses of why he didn't/couldn't contact you on saturday. He sounds like he'd be a lot of heartache. Pass. and good luck
mortensorchid Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Hit the road, Jack, and doncha come back no more! 2
kidm Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 I see he tried to cover all grounds but failed miserably with his lies @ phone dead and tried to charge. He's pathetic and doesn't deserve anymore of your time. He could have reached out and rescheduled. When the so-called friends were on their way to get him, he couldn't shoot you a text? and how long does it take to charge a phone in a car just to send a text? He really thinks you're naive and a fool. Lose that moron. 1
kztar Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 This is pathetic. Move on. Don't waste one more second with this guy. He's already shown you that your time to him is worthless.
Miss Peach Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Apparently his phone was dead.. but the weird thing is he said he was trying to charge his phone in his car.. Part of me thinks he went with a girl or possibly his girlfriend and was hiding in the car trying to text me.. It really doesn't matter IMO. He lost his shot with you (or should). But the one time I was stood up the guy lined up a second person (we were exclusive), forgot about me, and then tried to apologized. It's the only time I've been knowingly two timed. Funny thing is this was confirmed for me a few years later when through other social circles I met the woman and we put two and two together. 2
Author kittyxo Posted June 13, 2016 Author Posted June 13, 2016 I wrote about this in my other post about a guy who I have been talking to recently. I met him online and we texted, even had a ton of phone conversations. But when it came time to hang out, or go on date, he would plan it, then never follow through.. He would either go missing or flake.. I wouldn't even get a phone call to tell me that he was cancelling.. I pathetically waited by my phone. The thing that is confusing me, is he continually contacts me to tell me how sorry he is. I know he's playing me for a fool and I have come to the conclusion that he isnt interested, or he has a girlfriend. But why would he even spend all this time trying to get to know me, call me every night to have 1 hour conversations, tell me he likes me, tells me he's serious.. but flakes on me? He has mentioned that he has major insecurities and trust issues..
lilmissjava Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 Don't waste another minute of your time with this dude. Catfish. Because you should always be aware of shady behaviour.
Zahara Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 Maybe he is married or has a girlfriend. Or is likely dating other women while managing you on the side. It's a source of attention and an ego boost for him.
morrowrd Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 Cut your losses. There are so many others out there who are hoping you give them a chance.
Larryville Posted June 13, 2016 Posted June 13, 2016 Why would he spend all this time trying to get to know me, only to disappoint me? I firmly believe that a significant number of people on OLD get on a use it more as entertainment or to alleviate boredom than to use it to actually meet someone. When it comes to guys, they may have several women on standby and they will keep conversing to keep you on the hook. Many others have said here often if they delay meeting for any reason cut them loose and don’t waste time. At the very least women should have other dudes on standby too.
Author kittyxo Posted June 18, 2016 Author Posted June 18, 2016 Yes, there are so many things going on as the title of this post suggests. There's this guy that has been texting me for over a month now. I haven't met him because whenever he asks me out, he either "forgets" or doesn't go through with it. The first couple of times I was upset, but then I started getting annoyed. We've had a ton of phone conversations which have been down right weird.. In our last conversation, he mentioned to me that he pretty much hates himself and that he feels a sense of loneliness.. which I don't understand since I've mentioned getting together 2 times?? I've told him that I liked him because he asked me, but as soon as I said it, he disappeared.. He's also guilt tripped me so many times for being busy and saying i'd call him back when I was free.. He has a habit of ignoring me, then coming back to me saying he misses me and misses talking to me..but then why is he ignoring me for days? Could he really be dealing with some kind of depression? Or he just a big player? 1
angel.eyes Posted June 18, 2016 Posted June 18, 2016 Neither! He's just wasting your time, and will continue to do so for as long as you allow it. FWIW, if he were a player, he would have met you, slept with you, and moved on weeks ago. If you're looking to date, focus on guys who actually want to date, and you know, show up for a date when they set one up. This guy is full of excuses. Just move on. 1
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