Good friend passed away, ex-girlfriend texted me to wish her condoleneces

[Klein1715]

So my ex-girlfriend and I broke up close to a month ago now. She texted on three different occasions, first was a week after to send me an inside joke we had that made her laugh, which I replied with a funny text as well and wasn't expecting much of a reply from her. Second time she texted me on my birthday to wish me happy birthday and telling me she was thinking a lot about me and wished me well. Which I replied with a "Thanks for the thought and wish you're doing well too".

 

Now the third time she contacted me is today. My good friend passed away in a brutal car accident two days ago, which I'm still shocked by the news... She wished me her condolences as she knew him and I were close friends since a very young age...

 

Although I still love and care for her and would like our relationship to come back, I still don't known if I should text her back or keep no contact... I still care very deeply for her and I would love her and I to work things out one day. I was in a relationship with her for about 9 months, we had our flaws but overall had a happy relationship. Things started to get downhill in the end and she had doubts on continuing the relationship with me.(she had realised we weren't compatible) I felt I had to leave her because of that.

 

I installed an LED light bar on her vehicule before we broke up and feel like saying "keep your LED lights" to show her I still care.... Lol but I really ain't sure that's a good idea.

 

Any thoughts are welcomed

[seamos]

First, I'm sorry about the death of your close friend.

 

As far as the issue of how to deal w/ your ex gf; for starters telling her to keep the LED lights sounds like a bad idea.

 

Of course she's going to keep them, you already gave them to her.

 

It sounds like you both think highly of each other and I think that's great! I get tired of hearing on LS all the time about how much people despise their exes.

 

It may be a little early to try to get back together if that's what you're hoping to do but if you can remain friends you will probably be thankful you did in the future.

[fands]

Very sorry about your friend. It's clear that life can be very short, so don't waste any time looking back. Your future holds much love and opportunity.

[ExpatInItaly]

I am sorry for your loss, OP.

 

I would simply thank her for her condolences. That was a nice gesture on her part and I would acknowledge it. This circumstance is quite different from usual, so I think it is completely understandable to reply, briefly but genuinely.

[PegNosePete]

Sorry for your loss.

 

As the other posters have said I would reply a simple thanks but that's all.

 

I installed an LED light bar on her vehicule before we broke up and feel like saying "keep your LED lights" to show her I still care.... Lol but I really ain't sure that's a good idea.

No, it's a bad idea.