helo23 Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 I have this guy that I really like and that i have a crush on since i met him.. I have been in a relationship and now that its over for a while my crush is back on and he is the fist i would see myself with.. We dont really know each other but we have met a couple times at parties or with friends and i always found him so attractive . Not only physically but more of the attitude that he has and his behavior .. I saw him last night because we were working the same event . I didnt give him a lot of attention but we talked a bit and he came a few times to me ... and checked me out a bit ... Im just not his style... He likes brunette Mediterranean type and im a blondy.. That sucks ! And the worst is that i have been so focused on my ex that i dont even know how to behave towards him or any guy anymore and i feel like i dont know how to flirt anymore .. We dont know each other much but i would love to get to know him and give it a shot if its worth it ... Any help and advise would be amazing =)
Buddhist Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 Facebook, txt or whatever method you have for getting hold of him and ask him out on a date. Anything else is beating about the bush and very likely going to end up in frustration for you. Don't try and manipulate him into asking you out, just get in there and do it yourself. If he says no then you go back to focusing on your ex or whoever.
preraph Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 Most guys won't turn a blond away just because they like brunettes and vice versa. Friend him and see if he starts talking.
Author helo23 Posted June 5, 2016 Author Posted June 5, 2016 I just wasn't able to like anybody i just waited to be moved on and won't go back to my ex. don t you think that just asking him straight away seems a bit forward and desperate ? i will not manipulate him into anything i just want him to notice me and want to date me and get there !
Author helo23 Posted June 5, 2016 Author Posted June 5, 2016 i already have him on Facebook for a few years ... should i inbox him and if yes say what ?
Buddhist Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 I just wasn't able to like anybody i just waited to be moved on and won't go back to my ex. don t you think that just asking him straight away seems a bit forward and desperate ? No. It's called taking your destiny into your own hands. It's never desperate nor needy to express interest in a clear manner. What it is, is vulnerable and that's scary to most people. If he's into you he's not going to turn down your offer of a date just because you made it. Desperation is what you are planning to do, which is try and turn up in his life multiple times. Trying to get his attention through indirect means, so he'll ask you out. If he's not into you, this will just annoy him and make you seem clingy. i will not manipulate him into anything i just want him to notice me and want to date me and get there ! That is manipulating him. When you won't act on your own behalf and instead try to get someone else to do it, what else is that called?
ChickiePops Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 No. It's called taking your destiny into your own hands. It's never desperate nor needy to express interest in a clear manner. What it is, is vulnerable and that's scary to most people. If he's into you he's not going to turn down your offer of a date just because you made it. Desperation is what you are planning to do, which is try and turn up in his life multiple times. Trying to get his attention through indirect means, so he'll ask you out. If he's not into you, this will just annoy him and make you seem clingy. That is manipulating him. When you won't act on your own behalf and instead try to get someone else to do it, what else is that called? No..manipulation is trying to actively force someone to do something they don't want to do by tricking them into it. What OP is talking about is asking someone IF they are interested in doing something and is therefore not manipulation. At all. Like not even a little bit... Just ask him out!! 1
Shanex Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 We are getting many threads where women want to ask guys out. I approve of that. Facebook/IG/text him if you're too shy to ask him bluntly in person. I don't think it's manipulating, if the guy is not interested, no one and not the OP will pull the trigger on him. At least you'll get your response. 1
Buddhist Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 What OP is talking about is asking someone IF they are interested in doing something and is therefore not manipulation. At all. Like not even a little bit... I already advised her to ask him out and she doesn't want to, her response was.... i just want him to notice me and want to date me and get there ! Which implies that she wants to use feminine wiles to entice him to ask her out instead. I never once said asking a guy out is manipulation and have no idea where you got that from.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 i already have him on Facebook for a few years ... should i inbox him and if yes say what ? Just send him a message saying it was nice to see him the other night and perhaps something you saw or were talking to him about that night. It doesn't have to be long, just something short and sweet. If he wants to continue the conversation he will jump at the opportunity, trust me. 1
Author helo23 Posted June 6, 2016 Author Posted June 6, 2016 what i thought about doing is to go to the restaurant with some good friends of mine and his at the same time and they will ask him to join us and after talking to him that night i will send him a message if he doesn't make the first step .. good idea ?
Author helo23 Posted June 6, 2016 Author Posted June 6, 2016 Which implies that she wants to use feminine wiles to entice him to ask her out instead. I never once said asking a guy out is manipulation and have no idea where you got that from./QUOTE] Im not manipulating him i just want advise how to approach him and put all the chances on my side .. he is the first guy im a interested into since 2 years not counting my ex .. you have to understand that when you have been out of the single life its hard to know what to do anymore ... i just dont want to burn my chances with him and act perceptively thats it !
pteromom Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 How do you know his "type"? If he's told you he only dates brunettes with a certain look, you shouldn't waste your time. But if you are just guessing based on who he has dated, it can't hurt to let him know you are interested and see what happens. And if it turns out that he does only like a certain type, it doesn't mean it sucks to be YOU - it means it sucks to be HIM because he'd be missing out on you.
Author helo23 Posted June 6, 2016 Author Posted June 6, 2016 my best friend told me that he has an attraction for brunette Mediterranean type but at the same time he was quite warm to me when i saw him ! so i dont know ... i just dont know how to approach a guy anymore and i ve always had the chance to have guys that usually come to me... and i become shy...
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