The irony...

[Jadedbyluv]

I was in an on and off again relationship for a year. It ended kinda badly about two months ago. We didn't talk for awhile but started talking a few weeks ago. We hung out and things were really great. He mentioned spending more time together then he kinda went back to his old ways. Not committing to plans or breaking plans.

 

While we weren't together, I started dating again. Nothing serious but more of a way to move forward. I've been on a few dates with one guy who I actually liked but I didn't really commit to him because I was still not over my ex. We went out on another date last night and it was a good night.

 

Some how my ex found out about this guy. He called me immediately and was so upset. He was angry and basically said he didn't want to talk anymore.

 

It's frustrating he can't commit to me or doesn't want to make plans with me yet he is upset that I'm dating again. Did he expect me to sit around and wait forever? He has no right to be upset. It's really unfair. He wants to have his cake and eat it too.

 

Just needed to vent.

[privategal]

I just hope you didn't 'help' him find out. Thats insensitive, immature, and is a ploy for jealousy.

Also you need a clean break and NC.

Neither of you need to be friends with the other nor have any right to updates on the others lives.

Your mistake was agreeing to friendship.

You cant heal, it drags it out...and it gets messy. Stop talking...get off eachothers social media and stop the back and forth which leads to drama.

[Neffer]

Yes, he wants it both ways. He wants you to stay frozen as he remembers/wants you - pining over him. You had figured out his push/pull routine - when you were moving away he pulled you close (back) to make sure you were still available, still wanted him. Then he pushed you away again. Its an ego thing. Childish, selfish - doesn't take your feelings into account.

 

Keep moving on past him. Go NC and it will get easier.