Justanaverageguy Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 (edited) Yes. Happens quite often. Usually when people say ' things were getting better and I thought that we had sorted out this issue ' etc. Google ' the walkaway wife syndrome '. It's interesting.Its not limited to wives but to gfs as well. I had never heard the term walk away wife before, so I did a little light reading on it. From my experience, this is how a big portion of relationships end. My marriage, my best man's marriage, and a couple friends' relationships. Basically, the woman just is not emotionally invested any longer. The problem is, in many cases, if a problem is even voiced, the man does not know how big the problem is. If my wife or GF vents about me being messy for example, how am I to know that something like that might lead her to leave? A lot of guys just don't look at it that way. Some of us have minor, similar complaints about our partners, but I know in my case, I understand that no one is perfect, and those complaints would not cause me to exit the relationship. I'm a people watcher. If I see a pattern of behaviour that doesn't make sense I dig a little deeper and figure out whats going on. Based on my own observations of peoples relationships in the real world the so called "walk away wife" syndrome is a load of bollocks. I don't think it really happens - at least not the way it is described. Similar to enigma I've seen this so called phenomenon happen to 4 married couples recently. Where the woman just suddenly upped and left the husband. Basically came home and said it was over and moved out with the usual story that's attached to walk away wife syndrome. I complained about these things but you didn't fix them. I'm not happy any more and don't feel loved. "Trial" separation follows with out any real attempts to fix the relationship. The guy feels blindsided exactly like enigma said here and like she has just "walked away" without raising the issues previously as a significant problem. The thing is in the 4 cases I observed they were my ex's good friends and she had all the gossip on what was really happening behind the scenes. In all cases the women were actually cheating with another man and simply wanted to conceal this and not tell the husband or have people find out she was a cheat. They wanted to move out so they could continue the affair and essentially see where it went. I'm not saying normal breakups don't occur without cheating involved. They just look completely different. Women don't end a marriage lightly or overnight under normal circumstances. They don't end them without making the husband fully aware of the issues. In a "normal" marriage break down there is generally a slow drawn out process. Fights, counseling etc. The walk away wife syndome is named this because it is so abrupt - like what enigma said. The women doesn't really voice huge issues previously and the marriage ends suddenly taking the guy by suprise. From what I have seen when this happens there is almost always a third party involved which acts as the catalyst for the sudden change in feelings. Most of the stuff around the women feeling not emotionally invested, neglected etc is true - but that is what leads to the cheating. And its only when there is another partner that the marriage ends so suddenly without any effort to save it. Since I joined the dots I've seen this in a number of other cases and it always looks the same. The husband and friends and family is absolutely clueless. Thus from the outside it looks like this weird "walk away wife" phenomena. Edited June 7, 2016 by Justanaverageguy
Justanaverageguy Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 (edited) Using the term 'walkaway' somehow implies that she's at fault for leaving; that she's leaving a good thing. But what woman in her right mind would stay around and complain so that he knows something is STILL wrong? No the term walkaway is used because the breakup is sudden and it seems like she just drops everything and leaves. I've seen it in real life and people talking about it on the forums. The guy is blind sided because the woman doesn't really raise issues as serious previously or say there is a problem with the relationship. Everything is basically "normal" then she comes home and says she wants a divorce. Also from what I've seen the woman will raise a lot of the issues she has after she says she wants a divorce as a reason for the break up but hasn't really raised them in a meaningful way previously. Seriously read through the divorce and breakup forum. You will see patterns start to emerge showing the difference between what you might call a typical marriage break up and a walk away. Here is a recent one that is a typical example of "walk away". http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/582120-20-years-gone Edited June 7, 2016 by Justanaverageguy
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