ohso Posted June 4, 2016 Posted June 4, 2016 I've started seeing this guy 2 months ago. We really have nice time and are connected. We can talk almost whole day and we hold hands and do everything couples do. His situation is that his long term gf left him but they still have sex, as well as he has a few fwb too. My situation is that I'm in a open relationship. I still didn't have sex with him. He told me he loves me and I asked him does he want a relationship, but he said no. What does he want? Should I give this some time and see how it goes?
ExpatInItaly Posted June 4, 2016 Posted June 4, 2016 I've started seeing this guy 2 months ago. We really have nice time and are connected. We can talk almost whole day and we hold hands and do everything couples do. His situation is that his long term gf left him but they still have sex, as well as he has a few fwb too. My situation is that I'm in a open relationship. I still didn't have sex with him. He told me he loves me and I asked him does he want a relationship, but he said no. What does he want? Should I give this some time and see how it goes? Sex, somewhere down the road. Some companionship when it's convenient for both. That's it. Does he know you are in an open relationship? If so, he probably doesn't love the idea of sharing his girlfriend with another man. Most men are not going to want to be co-boyfriends. No, I wouldn't give it time. He was clear. 3
TheBathWater Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 Can you guys hear that? It's the faint sounds of two trains coming from opposite directions on the same track... 3
frus69 Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 He loves you? :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: Shouldn't it happen AFTER sex anyway? Some people throw ILY around so easy ay 2
smackie9 Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 A guy that is still banging his ex GF (well he says she is his ex) and a few others????....mmmm no not relationship material. Stop wasting your time. 3
CarrieT Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 You are "connected" after 60 days?!?! Ummm.... He doesn't love you. He doesn't KNOE you! 1
joseb Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 You are "connected" after 60 days?!?! Ummm.... He doesn't love you. He doesn't KNOE you! Indeed - it seems these days that everyone "loves" everyone else at the drop of a hat - and next day they no longer "love" them. OP, what are *you* looking for with this guy?
basil67 Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 When people say they don't want a relationship, there is a hidden "with you" in the sentence. 2
Buddhist Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 I think the more important question is what do you want? If you are in an open relationship, generally you wouldn't be seeking another relationship, but rather hookups. I find your post not really anomalous with that. In short - It means he finds you attractive enough for sex and that's it. Don't get confused by the love word. It doesn't mean what you think it means. A lot of people use this in the context of I love pizza. They're not about to marry a pizza though.... 2
Otter2569 Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 Maybe I am old school but I almost never ever use ILY! Anyone who uses is it that freely should be red flagged...IMO.
mortensorchid Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 This is not a healthy situation for either of you to be in. Personally I never understood people who are in open relationships : You both want to see others but one party always gets jealous of the other for what they are doing without them. Move on. And consider your open relationship situation. Is that what you want? For the long term anyway?
preraph Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 He probably doesn't even know what loves in. What he loves is sex. A lot of guys think love is how they feel when they orgasm, especially young guys. When I guy really loves you, the very last thing they want to do is disrespect you or hurt, plus they want to protect and provide for you.
PegNosePete Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 If you're in a relationship (open or otherwise), why are you asking other guys if they want to be in a relationship with you? What are you playing at here?
Toodaloo Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 No he does not love you he is just saying it to get into your knickers. Its called playing hard to get and it worked on you. If you sleep with him that is all it will be and then he will move on. 1
candie13 Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 Run, girl, he's bs you big time, hoping for NSA sex. Date other men and ignore the sucker. There are chances he'll improve his offer. Don't listen to him, he's one of those men who loves sleeping around & this type of habits are very hard to change. 1
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