frus69 Posted June 4, 2016 Posted June 4, 2016 (edited) Actually, I had no expectation of getting laid going into this initially. She set it up, including wanting to stay at my place. I'm going to say 'no' to that? So a total (attractive) stranger offered you sex, god forbid you say no to that? lol really..How desperate is that? I know men love sex but come on, I have higher expectation from you. Again, it's not about getting laid, it's about being manipulated. I feel that's what is happening here and I have no patience for it. Not the least bit. And she "might be" sick and wants me to take care of her for the weekend? Ha! Well, because you can't get laid, you feel disappointed, no? Because you can't get laid, you feel manipulated, no? I never blamed her. What I did say was that this was MY issue - I'm not feeling trusting of her after she pulled that text. I'm owning that. She can react how she wants to, and I will not judge it as wrong. But I absolutely will protect ME. I am not going to let a woman string me along. I won't even chance it. You should not trust her, because she is a stranger, not because she won't get you laid anymore. When a stranger offers you sex without even seeing you in person, you should be suspicious, not psyched up. Why does someone have to be 'the bad one' here? The way I see it is that we had plans, a curve ball got thrown in and I had been smelling bull***t the whole time, and for me this confirmed it (whether it's true or not). So I bailed. I have no regrets at this point. I didn't say you are the bad one, I'm just saying neither of you are innocent. She probably played you a bit. But she wouldn't be able to do it if you didn't have your own agenda. I don't know why she said "take care of me", actually sounds to me like she's trying to be funny. Anyway, i wouldnt believe a woman who offers sex to strangers. Edited June 4, 2016 by frus69 2
frus69 Posted June 4, 2016 Posted June 4, 2016 Again don't agree but you are entitled to your opinion... To me, it sounds like the whole thing just turned him off... Note to women:. Please don't ever tell a guy before you even meet that you have your period and ask them to take care of you. Please please please. No. If you don't want to have sex that is your prerogative, just say no. Jeez. Of course the whole thing turned him off, because he won't get laid anymore. Sounds to me she just wanted to hook up, and either changed her mind for whatever reason, or really got her period....=.= If OP also just wanted to hook up,then I don't understand the fuss. A random hook up is really no worthy of so much gut feelings or being played whatsoever. You shouldnt even care? 1
Author TheBathWater Posted June 4, 2016 Author Posted June 4, 2016 Of course the whole thing turned him off, because he won't get laid anymore. Sounds to me she just wanted to hook up, and either changed her mind for whatever reason, or really got her period....=.= If OP also just wanted to hook up,then I don't understand the fuss. A random hook up is really no worthy of so much gut feelings or being played whatsoever. You shouldnt even care? I admire your confidence in speaking to other people's psychologies. You really must know me and other internet strangers better than anyone else. Have you ever heard of psychological projection?
jen1447 Posted June 4, 2016 Posted June 4, 2016 Can I ask where she's from? Also what's the nature of her business in your town? No offense but it kinda seems like a scam - bait and switch type thing, surprisingly effective tactic bc it tends to keep ppl invested bc they often keep chasing the poon if they don't get it initially. Did she ever discuss sick mothers or any of that type of stuff? I guess it's encouraging she paid her own airfare ....altho I don't suppose you actually saw her 'arrive' from her flight.
alphamale Posted June 4, 2016 Posted June 4, 2016 Thoughts? maybe she's just looking for a free hotel room for the wknd
trippi1432 Posted June 4, 2016 Posted June 4, 2016 I admire your confidence in speaking to other people's psychologies. You really must know me and other internet strangers better than anyone else. Have you ever heard of psychological projection? I believe you did say she played you up...that was what I gleaned. It's totally fine to not want to be involved given the circumstances. Physically, you are strangers...but if you played on each other sexually and emotionally for those months you were conversing, obviously there would be disappointment on both sides. The will you take care of me was a bit much from her side, that reeks of needy.
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