lana-banana Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 You sound deep in denial about the end of the relationship. He isn't coming back, he doesn't want to reconcile, and you shouldn't even be thinking about some faraway future where he decides he wants to try again. The sooner you can accept this is permanent and not some bump in the road or brief period where you "need space", the better. Don't get me wrong, you don't have to feel good about it. You can and should nurse your pain for a while. But you should also recognize your story with him has ended. 1
ChickiePops Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 That is actually probably the most incorrect scenario, but thanks haha. I know you don't want to believe it but this is very common and most likely exactly what's going on. Everyone wants to be the exception to the rule but most people are not. That's why it's called a rule. I'm very sorry for your pain. I really am. But as the poster above me said, you are in deep denial (completely normal) and you need to start letting go. Sucks to hear it..I didn't want to either during my last break up. But the sooner you accept it, the sooner you can begin healing. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 9, 2016 Posted June 9, 2016 That is actually probably the most incorrect scenario, but thanks haha. Not really. You're both still young and haven't had other relationships. It's normal to wonder what else is out there and to be curious about other people, both for sex and relationships. It doesn't mean you didn't love each other or have a relatively happy relationship, but first loves are almost never our last either. I don't think he necessarily broke up with you for the express purpose of sleeping with other girls, but you cannot ignore the fact that he will (at some point) now that he is single. I know it's not fun to think about, but it's true. This is also why it's important for you to really start seeing this as truly over. Emotional detachment takes time, and if you hang on only to find out he's been with someone else, it's going to devastate you. If, on the other hand, you're operating under the assumption that you are really going your separate ways, you will know nothing of his dating life and will therefore be able to be better guard yourself against further pain. None of this is to say it's 100% impossible that you will someday reconcile. It's rare, but it happens. But you need to consider yourselves totally done so you can get yourself into a healthy place, regardless of whether he reaches out again or not.
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