beachlover966 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 There is this guy that messaged me on Instagram a few months ago. When he first messaged me on Instagram he told me that I was pretty and then we exchanged numbers. We never met in person. We texted for a few weeks and then we stopped talking for a little while. He wanted to be his girlfriend and he told me that he wanted to have sex with me when he first started talking to me. I am 20 and he is 18. We haven't talked in a few weeks but recently he texted me saying that he missed talking to me. He recently told me that he wants to have sex with me and he even told me that he wants to be in a relationship with me. We talked on the phone also but our conversations on the phone wasn't about sex. We talked on the phone about getting to know each other. He seems like a nice guy but I'm also seeing other guys that I like. I told him that I'm keeping my options open and seeing other guys. I'm not that interested in him because I like the other guys that I'm seeing more than him and I told him that and I told him that I prefer to date guys that are more my age. Is this a good sign or a bad sign that he already wants to become my girlfriend if we haven't gone on one date and met in person? Am I too picky? Did I do the right thing by turning him down or do you think that I should have given him a chance?
Conviction Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 I think he's a sucker for continuing to chase you even after you told him "I like these other guys more than you". I don't think that was a very mature, respectful thing to say to him. He's a dumb*** if he gives you the time of day.
JS84 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Personally I think you handled it fine. You were honest and didn't string him along or give him false hope. If you're not into him than you're not into him and that's it. You don't owe him a chance. Although I'm not sure what you mean by the age difference. Him being 20 and you being 18 makes pretty much no difference whatsoever. Unless he's in college and you're still in high school or something and that's what you meant. But again if you want someone exactly your age, that's up to you. And yes he sounds kind of weird.
Conviction Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Personally I think you handled it fine. You were honest and didn't string him along or give him false hope. If you're not into him than you're not into him and that's it. You don't owe him a chance. Although I'm not sure what you mean by the age difference. Him being 20 and you being 18 makes pretty much no difference whatsoever. Unless he's in college and you're still in high school or something and that's what you meant. But again if you want someone exactly your age, that's up to you. And yes he sounds kind of weird. So long as she's not replying to his texts/calls this is fine and dandy, from the sounds of it, she's not though. Maybe OP could clarify?
LostOnes05 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 This guy just wants sex...I mean he told you so when you first started talking. If you told him all of that stuff about other guys and he is still chasing, he probably only wants one thing. I know that if a woman told me that, I'd be a 26.2 miles away by then. There is nothing significant about a 2 year age gap. However, age says nothing about mental or emotional maturity. So you could very well encounter a man in your age bracket that acts like a toddler. Just be careful, but I wouldn't entertain someone whose first inclination was to tell me they wanted sex.
JS84 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 So long as she's not replying to his texts/calls this is fine and dandy, from the sounds of it, she's not though. Maybe OP could clarify? We haven't talked in a few weeks but recently he texted me saying that he missed talking to me. Granted she could and probably should just ignore him, but he's the one who is reaching out to her trying to pursue things not the other way around. Not to mention coming on too strong. Again I don't feel she's in the wrong how she's handled him in the slightest. She made her feelings, or lack thereof, clear. It's his fault if he can't accept that.
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