blackcatbunny Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 There’s a guy I went on a date a few times, then he told me he think a relationship between us wouldn’t work and kinda ignored me so I told him that we should stop seeing each other. (I asked about him on other topic already) After that I had my new Tinder account. A few days later I saw him Tinder but I swiped left. Somehow,when I logged in the next day, his profile appeared again (weird). After 1 day thinking about left or right, I swiped right. And guess what, it was a match (it means he swiped right too – it’s a new account so he probably swiped right after our last meet – when I told him to stop seeing each other).And a few days later I sent him a message and ask him to meet me (I just want to apologize) but he’s sick (he was really sick – not an excuse) and couldn’t go out so he called me and we talked on the phone. I said sorry because I acted rude to him on the very last time we met. We talked and laughed. Everything went well and he went cold again on the next day. And there’s one thing that we met on OKCupid, but after the last time we met, I told him I don’t wanna see him anymore, he went offline on OKCupid (even he uses it everyday before) . But after that call when we talked again, he started logging in again (almost everyday). He’s not a guy who just wanna play around and we were a very good match. just one day, he suddenly think It doesn’t feel right then told me Everytime we talked, he feels like I’m a friend, not a girlfriend (but we are not in a relationship so wtf? ) So why did he swipe right when we decided that we would stopp seeing each other? Why he was so nice then act cold again? Should I try to reach out to him after a while or what? I went NC already btw
PegNosePete Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Why do you give 2 hoots what he does or doesn't do? You're in NC so why are you even bothering to waste your brain power to try to figure out what he's up to? Stalking someone on dating sites is not NC, by the way. Just let it go! 3
Zahara Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 He's told you he's not interested. That should be your answer. All the swipe right, left, okcupid, etc. is meaningless. You're just trying to grasp on some little possibility that he may be interested. The guy is telling you straightforward what he thinks. Listen. Stop chasing him. 3
Author blackcatbunny Posted June 3, 2016 Author Posted June 3, 2016 Because I'm still using those dating apps so everytime I log in I will see him. But I'm ready to let it go. Just some little weird thoughts make me annoying.
stillafool Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Maybe he forgot who you were since he's probably dating so many people and after the phone call he remembered that you gave him the feeling of only being a friend, not a gf so he went ghost again.
Author blackcatbunny Posted June 3, 2016 Author Posted June 3, 2016 Haha. I'm sure that he didn't forget me. He's that kind of always stay in his office/at home to code. A nerdy IT Programmer. He's kinda simple. Anw, I think that it's kinda weird when he want me to communicate with him like a gf but we aren't not in a relationship so it's easy to understand why I hold back. I didn't want to go fast, it will scare him away. But I think he got me wrong so he just withdrawn. But well. It happened.
Zahara Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Because I'm still using those dating apps so everytime I log in I will see him. But I'm ready to let it go. Just some little weird thoughts make me annoying. I'm sure there is a block or unmatch function. If it's causing you distress and confusion, then block him. 2
Zahara Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Everytime we talked, he feels like I’m a friend, not a girlfriend (but we are not in a relationship so wtf? ) He said "friend" not girlfriend. 1
smackie9 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 He may not be the player type but he could be the cheating on his GF type....that would explain why he keeps coming back and pulling away....he's on the fence whether to cheat or not. Kinda like testing or fishing the waters to see what's out there. Just my 2 cents.
Dark Horse Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Several possibilities 1. He swipes yes to every girl so he probably was spamming the like button without realizing it was you. Then when he see's who his matches are he will be like oh sht. 2. He knows who you are but swiped yes anyways just because he wants to see that if you liked him as well. Kind of like testing the waters type of thing. 3. I like cheezits 1
SugarLips72 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Tinder is weird and loaded with flakes and guys just wanting hookups. He may have swiped right by accident. At this point who cares, he has already told you he is not really interested and he is probably just looking for hook ups.
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Why do you give 2 hoots what he does or doesn't do? You're in NC so why are you even bothering to waste your brain power to try to figure out what he's up to? Stalking someone on dating sites is not NC, by the way. Just let it go! My thoughts exactly.
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