KS11 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 So me and my ex broke up back in February, the day before Valentines Day (which I thought was a nice touch from her). We'd know each other for 6 years and been together on and off throughout that period. We (though really I guess it was her) decided to end things as we were arguing more and old issues seemed to keep resurfacing. She was always unsure of how she felt, despite saying that she loved etc etc.. We went NC for a few weeks, until she reached out saying she'd missed me. So we met up, hooked up, had a great time together and she was saying all the right things to make me think she wanted to start over. Long story short, that didn't happen. We got in to a big fight, with me saying that it seemed like it was all just a big game to her. Anyway, it's been about 2 months NC now and i've found myself thinking about her more and more everyday. At first I was alright, but it feels like i'm stuck in this cycle. I'm not going to reach out to her (I dont think at least), there's nothing I could say. But I miss her incredibly. I know any chance of that happening is 1)almost non-existent 2)would have to come from her, but I still can't give up this f**king hope that it might. I love(d) this girl so much, it's just awful thinking she chose to toss me aside. I guess you have to just get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable about the situation and just sit with the pain until it goes right?
ExpatInItaly Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 So me and my ex broke up back in February, the day before Valentines Day (which I thought was a nice touch from her). We'd know each other for 6 years and been together on and off throughout that period. We (though really I guess it was her) decided to end things as we were arguing more and old issues seemed to keep resurfacing. She was always unsure of how she felt, despite saying that she loved etc etc.. We went NC for a few weeks, until she reached out saying she'd missed me. So we met up, hooked up, had a great time together and she was saying all the right things to make me think she wanted to start over. Long story short, that didn't happen. We got in to a big fight, with me saying that it seemed like it was all just a big game to her. Anyway, it's been about 2 months NC now and i've found myself thinking about her more and more everyday. At first I was alright, but it feels like i'm stuck in this cycle. I'm not going to reach out to her (I dont think at least), there's nothing I could say. But I miss her incredibly. I know any chance of that happening is 1)almost non-existent 2)would have to come from her, but I still can't give up this f**king hope that it might. I love(d) this girl so much, it's just awful thinking she chose to toss me aside. I guess you have to just get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable about the situation and just sit with the pain until it goes right? Exactly. And it will go, eventually. You need to be patient with yourself. If you were on and off for 6 years, it's a clear indication that you don't work as a couple. You're comfortable with each other but that level of inconsistency suggests there are bigger problems in the dynamic. Think about that every time you want to get in touch. And then hold out for someone who wants to be in your life. 1
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