shamrock07 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 I would like some input; my ex broke up with me a little over a month ago, it was a rash and impulsive decision, he's very insecure, he drove by where I worked and even caught him driving by my apartment. I was over at a convenience store when a man came towards me saying, "just the girl I was looking for" but then backed off like someone pulled him back, the man was familiar in the way that it is one of my ex's seasonal employees. I did the no contact for 30 days to allow us time and space, he text me on the 29th day offering to drop my stuff off, I could tell he was nervous, I ignored him until the following day then I gave him a day to drop it off, he did not respond to me nor did he show up. He then text me a week later, I knew the moment before my phone went off, it was him saying he was sorry the day didn't work for him and he's been busy, said it was slower the rest of the week and that he drives by quite a bit, that to me sounds like a confession he's been driving by. He then text a minute later saying he feels he should return something I gave him to me, that to me spells guilt. I ignored him again until the next day asking if tomorrow (today) would work, then again no response and no show. I would really like to know what is going on in his head, seems to me he wants to see me but never follows through, It's almost like he keeps attempting but delays it at the same time. I would like to talk to him but not over telecommunications. What do you think I should do? Ignore him the next time? Or should I try calling or texting him to see where his mind is at? Please help.
PegNosePete Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 (edited) This is why you should always swap stuff back before entering NC. It makes no sense to go into NC with the inevitable stuff swap chat and meeting still hanging over your heads. What "stuff" are we talking about here? If it's minor small things, just write them off. It's not worth the hassle. If it's things you can't live without, put in the effort yourself and go pick them up. Don't go in for a chat, don't have a cup of coffee, etc. Make a list of what you want to collect, just pick up it up and leave. Then start NC properly. Stop trying to analyze his behaviour and his thoughts. He is your EX. You need to let it go. Edited June 3, 2016 by PegNosePete
basil67 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 He's delaying because he's nervous and insecure. I totally agree on you working out what your stuff is worth. Sometimes writing it off is the best answer.
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