Ex got extremely paranoid and upset because she thought I was seeing someone else.

[ballbern]

So me and my ex have been broken up for around a month now. We have two children therefore we are in contact quite regularly. Over the past few days I have been texting and email via my phone several recruitment agents regarding potential jobs. I didn’t think anything of it at the time, but while I was talking to these recruitment agents I was along with my ex. Anyway, a couple of days ago I had to meet my ex as my daughter had a sports day at school and we both wanted to go. I noticed that she was in a strange mood, so I asked if she was ok. She said she was fine and that she was just having a hard time with being alone with the kids, then I noticed she was holding back tears. At the time I thought she was upset because she was under pressure so I talked to her and tried to reassure her that she would be ok and that I would help as much as I could.

 

After my daughters sports day, I went back to my exs house with the kids and spent some time with them. Again while I was there I was emailing and texting recruitment agents. I left and went home, not long after my ex text me and said “hi, you seemed to be very pre occupied with your phone over the last few days. Its probably none of my business but if you are seeing someone or if you do start seeing someone in the future can you tell me, as I don’t want to be caught off guard by finding out through someone else”. i text back a very short text just saying “no, I’m not seeing anyone”.

 

The next day I went to pick up the kids. Again she seemed very down, so I asked again if she was ok. She said she didn’t believe me when I said I wasn’t seeing someone and that she couldn’t believe that I was moving on so easily. I got slightly annoyed because, first she was saying that I was lying and second she was questioning me about my personal life which now that we were not a couple anymore I felt she shouldn’t be doing. So I didn’t really go out of my way to convince her that she was wrong, I simply said that I wasn’t seeing anyone and that I shouldn’t have to explain myself to her even if I was..

 

I am confused after talking to her, because I had gotten the impression from her that she didn’t really care what I was doing, and I thought she wouldn’t really be that bothered if I were seeing someone. This is strange, I think this shows that there are feelings there, maybe strong feelings and I don’t know what way I should handle it from here. Should I just ignore it from here on, should I talk to her and convince her that I’m not seeing someone else or what should I do??

[juniorrocha]

If you're not together anymore and have no intentions of doing so, then you don't have to tell her anything. You don't owe her explanations regarding your personal life. You should maybe go NC and only talk to her when it's something related to the kids.

[ballbern]

If you're not together anymore and have no intentions of doing so, then you don't have to tell her anything. You don't owe her explanations regarding your personal life. You should maybe go NC and only talk to her when it's something related to the kids.

 

what if i did have some interest in getting back together. what would you suggest i should do?