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Hi all, below you can see parts of a Facebook chat between a girl I have a huge crush on. I find her very difficult to read as a person so I need your assistance.

 

This is very important to me so please read it all and help.

Everything here is happening on Facebook unless written otherwise.

First of all I first talked to her a month ago by wishing her happy birthday and then when I thought the chat is gonna end, she asks me "How r u?" and the chat continiued since then (over 1200 messages in 1 month).

 

Her responses are very different each time, once she's responding positive with smileys, other times I get a feeling that she doesn't care and writes "Oh", "Yep", "Ok"...

 

She talks a lot how she wants to do things such as:

HER: "I'm looking at clothes at the mall"

ME: "Look for me too haha"

HER: "I'd do it if you were here"

 

And when I asked her if she has time she says I'm tired or busy and stuff.

I also noticed that sometimes when we see each other at school, I'm walking by and she could easily spot me but I just think that she doesn't wanna say hi, when we obviously both see each other I get a wave or she says hi.

 

Not a long ago this happened (short version):

HER: "Do you drink alcohol?"

ME: "Yeah I do"

HER: "Would you like to get a drink sometime?"

ME: "Yes I'd like to do it ofc, you might die laughing haha"

HER: "Hahah okay I accept the invitation" --> what??

ME: "You can bring girl-friends if you want"

HER: "I don't think so, one of them might steal you" (from her ??)

...

And since then she once couldn't come due to tiredness and isn't talking about it either -- when we were arranging it she was excited...

 

It happened twice that I did not click her after around 3 days to chat because I had nothing to say.

The fourth day:

ME: "Hey there, I'm not seeing you around"

HER: "I'm sleeping hahah, how come that you're not writing for so long?"

...

Why doesn't she just click me on FB?

 

Other mention-worth things:

- she gave me her phone number for future summer break meetings (which I doubt will happen)

- she sent me a :* once

- she is probably physically attracted to me

- she often asks me to send her pictures (I sent her pics from a wedding, drawings, from fitness, from a walk...)

 

If you need any other info ask me please.

Help.

Edited by Jack420
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Posted

What isn't clear? She's flirty. You seem interested. You've talked about having a drink. Ask her out.

Posted

Perhaps if she hit you over the head with a sledgehammer she may be obvious enough :D

 

Seriously mate, a green light doesn't get more obvious than this!

Posted

Did you two actually read it ... she makes excuses to reject his invitations.

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I would have asked her out already but as I'm saying I'm getting mixed responses.

 

Meanwhile she's texting me kinda a lot of Facebook, we barely talk in real-life.

 

She does the first move (giving phone number, asking me for a drink etc...) and then it seems that she doesn't wanna hear about it.

Posted (edited)

Oooh I thought you did ask her out "And since then she once couldn't come due to tiredness"

 

Shes probably getting tired of you not doing anything. (yawn)

 

Example :

HER: "Would you like to get a drink sometime?"

ME: "Yes I'd like to do it ofc, you might die laughing haha"

Instead say:

ME: You, me, 10:30, drink at X. (Not like that .. adapt it to your writing style.) OR just ask "okay we can meet at X, when are you free"

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We will probably go out this weekend because we've talked a lot about the meeting -- please stay tuned and I will tell you how it went.

 

If you have any advices for real life date/meeting please tell me.

Posted

Say "hey, Ive asked you out a few times now and Im serious so when your schedule works out, give me a day thats open and we will plan it for sure"

 

If you want to go out...be direct.

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Say "hey, Ive asked you out a few times now and Im serious so when your schedule works out, give me a day thats open and we will plan it for sure"

 

If you want to go out...be direct.

 

I second this. Being direct is a huge turn on!!!

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I would just add that a girl wouldn't have been able to say "I'm too tired" if you hadn't asked her out for the same day, which is impolite. Ask at least a day or two ahead of time.

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