sublime01 Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 Hi all I decided to post here because I am genuinely perplexed about the whole dating thing and seem to be going really wrong somewhere - some advice would be awesome! Anyway - I never seem to find a girl who I am into who also likes me. I know this is somewhat of a cliche - everyone has this issue. However I have been dating seriously since I was 18 ( just '' friends '' before that! ) and every single girl I have dated since then, I have just settled for. I feel like there is some barrier when it comes to girls I am into. 12 years on, I am getting pretty worried. I think I am reasonably attractive - I get attention ( no one else in my group of friends does ) when I am out, with some girls coming up to me and friends telling me I am an attractive guy. However when it comes to a girl I see and think '' wow ''.... It NEVER happens. They are not into me in that way, they have a BF, they are not looking for anything..... literally any barrier always comes up. Now I get that just because they are good looking does not mean they are relationship material - but the point is I never even get that far to find out! I treat girls exactly the same - regardless if I fancy them or not, I don't put people on a pedestal just because they are attractive. It is weird because the girls I am not into end up seriously falling for me and want to marry me! I just don't find them attractive in that way. I am completely at a loss as to what the problem is - am I doing something subconciously? Is it sheer bad luck? Is it like this for everyone ( If so, how on earth do people get married!!? ).... It would be good to hear from anyone else who has this issue and can shed some light on it! Thanks
Toodaloo Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 Its called Murphys Law. Don't worry about it. Just go out and keep meeting people and for crying out loud do not just settle for someone because they will do... Road to disaster that one... 2
Author sublime01 Posted June 2, 2016 Author Posted June 2, 2016 Its called Murphys Law. Don't worry about it. Just go out and keep meeting people and for crying out loud do not just settle for someone because they will do... Road to disaster that one... Oh yeah - I know that now! ha! The thing is, I thought it was normal - because I have never met anyone who I am into who feels the same. Its incredibly frustrating - and slightly worrying because I would never have been in any relationship if I hadn't settled..... It makes me wonder how many marriages or relationships are just because '' they will do ''.....
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