mint_tea Posted June 2, 2016 Share Posted June 2, 2016 So I have gotten the feeling my male co-worker has a crush on me. I think he's cute. We don't work in the same department so we don't see each other often, maybe once or twice a day. Here are the indicators I've gotten from him: -I caught him checking me out at a meeting - he was sitting next to me to my left, as was our boss. Co-worker turned his head the to his right while the boss was talking and scanned my body all the way up to my face, and stared at my face for a couple seconds before I caught him. I gave him a friendly smile but he just looked down and looked embarrassed. -He glances at me when he thinks I'm not looking. Like, he'll turn around and look at the clock, and then at my face, then the clock again, then my face again, etc. -He uses the water cooler near my desk even though there's one closer to his desk, and smiles at me every time he passes. -He finds excuses to touch me (brushing my fingers when he hands me a paper, grabbed my arm and hand when showing me how to do something, etc.) - If we're in a group and he says something funny he'll look at me first for my reaction -Points his body toward me while we're talking, even if I'm facing away from him -Talks to me differently than everyone else, like in a quieter tone -Smiles after everything he says to me -Fidgeting when we're talking one-on-one -Conveniently showing up at the same places (he's near my desk when I get to work and when I leave for the day) But sometimes he'll ignore me or just be really awkward around me. Does he possibly have a crush on me? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted June 2, 2016 Share Posted June 2, 2016 The question is do you have a crush on him??? ask him to join you for drinks after work. Tip: guys will pull back because if you are not putting out the right signals or reciprocate their glances with a smile ......they will get discouraged and wonder why they aren't getting the responses they hope for. Link to post Share on other sites
ironspider Posted June 2, 2016 Share Posted June 2, 2016 Based on what you listed....YES he's got a thing for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted June 2, 2016 Share Posted June 2, 2016 He likes you, indubitably. Hope it's mutual because that could be a good romance. Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted June 2, 2016 Share Posted June 2, 2016 What would be great if you nonchalantly said to him out of nowhere: "so, how about after work today we have sex?" Would his mouth drop? Would he get an involuntary erection? Would he run away? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted June 2, 2016 Share Posted June 2, 2016 Tip: guys will pull back because if you are not putting out the right signals or reciprocate their glances with a smile ......they will get discouraged and wonder why they aren't getting the responses they hope for. Yea, and more women need to know this... Sometimes a nice "lets get everything on the table" talk is in order. Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted June 2, 2016 Share Posted June 2, 2016 He might like you OR you may be over-reading the 'signs' Link to post Share on other sites
Buddhist Posted June 2, 2016 Share Posted June 2, 2016 We don't work in the same department so we don't see each other often, maybe once or twice a day. -Conveniently showing up at the same places (he's near my desk when I get to work and when I leave for the day) But sometimes he'll ignore me or just be really awkward around me. Does he possibly have a crush on me? A bit of inconsistency there between the first and second sentences. So does he show up at your deck several times a day or hardly ever? I'm confused. It's possible he has a crush on you, possible also he intends to do absolutely nothing about it too. Why don't you ask him out and gauge that reaction because the rest of it could mean nothing except he likes getting attention from you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mint_tea Posted June 3, 2016 Author Share Posted June 3, 2016 The question is do you have a crush on him??? ask him to join you for drinks after work. Tip: guys will pull back because if you are not putting out the right signals or reciprocate their glances with a smile ......they will get discouraged and wonder why they aren't getting the responses they hope for. I definitely have a crush on him! Link to post Share on other sites
Tressugar Posted June 8, 2016 Share Posted June 8, 2016 He's interested. But let's see if he'll follow through on his interest. Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted June 8, 2016 Share Posted June 8, 2016 It sounds pretty obvious that he is sexually attracted to you from what you have described. This doesn't necessarily mean he is romantically interested in you though. Has he made any attempt to get to know more about you as person or is all about admiring your form, stolen glances, and a few "accidental" touches? After working with lots of men over the years you start to see a difference between guys who are interested in you romantically and those who are interested in getting a cheap thrill to fantasize about when they are alone. It easy to mistake the two if you are interested in the guy so just keep that in mind. It can be flattering to know that the guy you like desires you, but if it is only a fantasy that can become annoying after a while. Link to post Share on other sites
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