The flirtationship where he never compliments me back--is he just not interested?

[PacificPlain]

I met this guy on tinder about 4 months ago. The first time we talked we really hit it off, the flirting was great and the compliments on attractiveness were mutual. Then we met up the next day in person. Everything was good, I thought he was much more attractive in person than he was in pictures, and told him so. He didn't say it back. I can't help but wonder if I don't look as good as I do in pics (although I'm usually told the opposite--I'm a healthy, fit weight, and had makeup on the day I met him).

 

Since then we've texted but our main form of communication is snapcha as stupid as it sounds. We also just text through snap. I enjoy pics from him and vice a Versa. But occasionally I'll get a selfie from him that's rather attractive, and I'll reply telling him he's cute. He never makes any response to this. And obviously he's never said this about any pic he's received of me regardless of caption. He lives several hours away, and he HAS recently half jokingly been telling me I should come visit him.

 

Pool season has finally started and I've sent 2 pics from the pool (I knew what I was doing) and he responded of course due to what he hoped to be lack of clothing, like every male his age would, but that's it in terms of comments on my appearance.

 

We snap every day several times a day. With the exception of guys who've been interested in me, I generally don't see one individual send me that many a day.

 

I sent him a text tonight after we'd been bantering, saying he's actually pretty cool. Nothing that said "likewise" or a reciprocal compliment came back as part of the response.

 

Based on all of this, should I assume when he saw me in February, he decided he wasn't attracted to me?

[Buddhist]

Then we met up the next day in person. Everything was good, I thought he was much more attractive in person than he was in pictures, and told him so. He didn't say it back.

 

occasionally I'll get a selfie from him that's rather attractive, and I'll reply telling him he's cute. He never makes any response to this.

 

I sent him a text tonight after we'd been bantering, saying he's actually pretty cool. Nothing that said "likewise" or a reciprocal compliment came back as part of the response.

 

Based on all of this, should I assume when he saw me in February, he decided he wasn't attracted to me?

 

Highly likely he is using you for the ego-taps at this point. Never compliments you, keeps sending you pics of himself etc....You're probably his self esteem cheerleader. Sorry.....

[PacificPlain]

Highly likely he is using you for the ego-taps at this point. Never compliments you, keeps sending you pics of himself etc....You're probably his self esteem cheerleader. Sorry.....

 

I don't compliment his looks in most snaps though (and it's not like they're all a barrage of selfies, either, in fact they usually aren't), but occasionally. And when I do, he doesn't compliment back.

[smackie9]

Highly likely he is using you for the ego-taps at this point. Never compliments you, keeps sending you pics of himself etc....You're probably his self esteem cheerleader. Sorry.....

 

My thoughts exactly.

 

OP if he was into you he would be wanting to spend time with you in person. Get the hint, he isn't really into you that way.