trippi1432 Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 .............or am I just tired of the BS? I may have messed up, I really don't know. Previous thread....dated a guy for over 3 months and he got really upset and mad at me for catching him getting a tit pic from an ex. He's pretty much irrelevant at this point, he lost all credentials with me that he couldn't tell tit's McGee that his girlfriend's DD's were much better..a**clown. Let her take him for a ride............ At any rate....some guys that had been interested in me off of OLD found out I was available. One I really like a lot, but he started coming on way too strong, my headspace isn't there yet. He broke two dates with me..one his brother had a wreck....the second, he sent me a text but I never got it. We both have iPhones/iMessage.....so I went out that night with friends and posted on FB. Next day I get a text asking if I was okay...he had texted me but didn't hear from me. Oh but he didn't want to hound me. So I told him, I'm not there yet, it's only been 3 weeks since this guy and I broke up. My words verbatim, "I'm not ready to fall into bed with the next guy yet.". He was pushing too hard...."I'm taking a shower, you should be here with me in the shower". That is when I cut it off....we've never been intimate nor even kissed. I put the brakes on last week he added an ex that I knew he dated in the past to his FB and then we talked over the weekend after band practice. We talked some at practice the other night. His ex finace' lives within a mile of him.....they argue because nothing is every good enough for her. This new woman he added to his FB is there because he feels bad for her, she has no friends...........................................................................Yeah, let the dots speak for themselves. So am I just raising a bunch of stupid flags or am I just practicing safe boundaries by not seeing this guy again?
Buddhist Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 What was the question again? That OP was all over the place. I have no idea what you are talking about. 3
LostOnes05 Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 No red flags here because you put the break on things. He can do whatever. You guys haven't even kissed so essentially you nothing more than text buddies. If he was being pushy about trying to get you in bed, then absolutely trust your gut on it.
Author trippi1432 Posted June 2, 2016 Author Posted June 2, 2016 What was the question again? That OP was all over the place. I have no idea what you are talking about. There was a question at the end of my rant.
Art_Critic Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 Why would you think you are emotionally unavailable because some guy wants to remove your panties and you don't want him to. Seems to me that the guy is looking for a FWB, he might be the one who is emotionally unavailable and breaking dates with people isn't a great sign either.. okay maybe once is okay but to keep doing it means move on from that guy. As far as the amount of time you need after the last guy, entirely up to you.. I dated fairly quickly after getting divorced as I was over her but I had a 5 month relationship once that took me a long time to get over, it's about how invested you were and where you are in life. Since you are meeting these guys in your close social circle I would be careful to pay attention to their red flags as you don't want to bring unnecessary drama to the group. or am I just tired of the BS? IMO that is what is up... time fixes all.... 1
Author trippi1432 Posted June 2, 2016 Author Posted June 2, 2016 Red flag number one, and that is only if you don't count the first broken date. He says he sent you a text, but you never got it? Ever? I know that stuff happens, but it is pretty rare, and people use it for an excuse for standing someone up too often. If you have problems getting texts or something, then I would trust him. Otherwise, he's probably full of crap. This is good enough reason to ditch the guy. Unless you have already slept with the guy, or at least discussed it openly, he should not be sending you messages like this. This is a sign that you are just a hook up to him. I have exes on my FB. Doesn't meant we talk often or hang out. Besides, you and him aren't together, so it doesn't matter who he has on his FB at this point. I agree with the missing text, it appears that is the only one from him that I didn't get. I've known for a long time that he was attracted to me and when he found out that I am available, he stepped up conversing and flirting with me. And asking me out but then basically standing me up for two dates, just too flakey for me. Supposedly, we are going to dinner this Saturday, but I've noticed him doing the slow fade this week, so I doubt that happens. On the ex and FB thing, I think it's sort of funny that he added her as soon as I put the brakes on the sex talk. Even funnier that he informed me last Saturday that she is a stalker but he feels bad for her. All of this has just made me regress and miss the guy that I was dating before.
Miss Peach Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 Just sounds like you have standards to me... None of these guys sounds commitment worthy from what you posted. 1
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