RoseF06 Posted June 1, 2016 Posted June 1, 2016 I need major help. He is 18 and I am 20. I love him so much but there's problems. Lately he's been really mean to me. It's strange though, because one minute he is okay and the next out of nowhere he starts calling me dumb or muttering that he's grossed out by me. Like today at work we were laughing about something, but like 10 minutes later he came up to me and said "ugh I'm so turned off by you" and just walked away because I just ignored him. He's been accusing me of lieing to him. I went out to the store to get medicine and he is a delivery driver and noticed when he passed my house that I wasn't home. He texted me "what are you doing" and I said just got back from the store and now at home. And he immediately called me a liar. I don't know what he thinks I'm doing but it's annoying because I didn't do anything! I feel like everything is about him....he only wants me to come over when he wants me to. He doesn't even care about when I want to. Everytime I ask, he says no. And he throws a fit when I say no to him. Today I asked if we can go on a date (we haven't been on one since last month ago). I told him I missed him and I hate just seeing him at work. His response was "well that's how our relationship is gonna be like." I don't know what to do. It's gonna be so hard not being together. But I'm simply just waiting for happiness to come and it feels like it never will 1
Gaeta Posted June 1, 2016 Posted June 1, 2016 Yes you should. Sweetie the 15 replies you got in your last thread were not clear enough? If you are waiting for someone to step in and tell you to be patient, to love him more and he'll change than you're wasting your time on here. You're boyfriend has turned into a bad person. If your boyfriend talked to your mom or your little sister the way he talks to you would it be ok? No. So if it's not good enough for your mom or your sister then it's not good enough for you either. Break up. You'll be fine. He's not your last boyfriend. 3
ExpatInItaly Posted June 1, 2016 Posted June 1, 2016 Same words of advice here as in your other thread: Yes. Dump him. He's a jerk. 2
bathtub-row Posted June 1, 2016 Posted June 1, 2016 He's been with you since he was 14?? And you've been with him since you were 16?? These are very bad dynamics. A great way to stunt your growth in every way possible. Personally I think he's pulling the typical guy stunt where he ramps up the bad behavior so that you'll dump him. This is not a guy who values or even wants to hang onto this relationship. He's doing everything he can to make you leave him. I know you're finding it hard to do but you need to cut the cord -- for his sake and yours. Both of you need to spread your wings and fly; see the world free of this childish relationship. 2
katiegrl Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 (edited) I need major help. He is 18 and I am 20. I love him so much but there's problems. Lately he's been really mean to me. It's strange though, because one minute he is okay and the next out of nowhere he starts calling me dumb or muttering that he's grossed out by me. Sweetie you are very young, but as you get older and a bit more experienced you will learn that this is absolutely without a doubt unacceptable and verbally abusive behavior. Do not spend one more second with this guy! The second a man says this to you.... you get up and WALK OUT. I don't care if you "love" him. If he was beating the crap out of you, would you still stay because you "love" him? If you stay, its quite likely that^ is precisely what will happen too because verbal abuse often escalates to physical abuse. There have been cases where a woman's boyfriend started out being verbally abusive (occasionally like your bf) then it became more frequent, then it escalated to physical abuse wherein he ultimately through acid on her face deforming her for life. TRUE STORY. Your bf is abusive and sick. LEAVE NOW. Edited June 2, 2016 by katiegrl 3
Buddhist Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 He's trying to get you to break up with him because he lacks the courage to do it himself. Set the kid free and go on and date someone more mature. Pick someone 25 or older next time and notice the difference it makes. 2
truth_seeker Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 Too young... been together too long... time to end it. 2
BaileyB Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 You have so much ahead in your life to look forward too... You will find someone else who will treat you with kindness and you will know that is love. Please, do as others have said and leave this boy. His behavior is abusive and unacceptable. If you need someone to help you, be sure to talk with your mom, or an aunt, or a friend, or a counsellor. Don't stay with a boy who treats you badly. You deserve better! 2
Arieswoman Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 RoseFO6 Should I break up with my boyfriend of 4 years? Yes. because one minute he is okay and the next out of nowhere he starts calling me dumb or muttering that he's grossed out by me. Like today at work we were laughing about something, but like 10 minutes later he came up to me and said "ugh I'm so turned off by you" ^^^ This is verbal abuse and you should not accept it. I'm simply just waiting for happiness to come and it feels like it never will and it certainly won't as long as you're with this rude, abusive, nasty, low-life, @r$eho£e. I have some good advice for you. How about you take charge of your life and make your own happiness? You can start right now by dumping this sack of runny poop that you call a b/f. Good luck x 1
Satu Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 There's nothing of value in this relationship. You're together purely out of habit. 1
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