I feel so garbaged after a dump of a guy who I wasn't dating

[feelsobullied]

This guy I used to work with tried to reconnect with my online and help me but by showing me tough love. Tough love doesn't work for me and they tease me all the time about he's in a new relationship and happy and encourages me to do the same thing and wants me to tell him when I am. I am trying to tell him that my life is not his business. He sends fake accounts and people to email me and manipulate me into forgetting him and moving on to someone new rather then just leave me alone. I need help. The insults daily are exhausting.

[Satu]

Talk to the police and tell them that you're are boing cyber-stalked.

 

Tell them about the effect that this is having on you.

 

You could also talk to his ISP, if you know who that is.

 

Consider changing your email address.

 

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means he might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete him from all social media.

*No monitoring of him on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying.

 

 

Take care

Edited June 1, 2016 by Satu

[feelsobullied]

Thank you. I am effected in the sense that I don't do what I set out to do. As soon as I log on to my email and read a reply telling me advice or something then I am right back in it. It was so bad last year, they were listening to my calls and then posting ads using things I was saying. They ripped me and my family apart and I pleaded with him to stop but it made things worse. Then they led me to a dumpsite and all the comments were them telling me about my problems and it wasn't very easy to take. I confronted the women but she said I seemed to bipolar to help. He said to grow up and grow a uterus.

[PinkPampies]

I am trying to figure out what you're saying here...

 

Are you saying people are contacting you to do things, like lead you to a dump site? Or are you hearing voices?

 

More information would be helpful.

[feelsobullied]

These guys have led me to a dump site but are also catfishing, and doing things in person to tell me what a horrible being I am. It's very cruel.

[Zahara]

These guys have led me to a dump site but are also catfishing, and doing things in person to tell me what a horrible being I am. It's very cruel.

 

How are these people contacting you?

 

Have you changed your email? Changed your phone number?

[feelsobullied]

I shouldn't have to. I know the guy. He's set up a mean game because he met someone and tried to help me give me tough love and some sick gang stalk initiation. He's harmless just sick and mean and is trying to do something to me but considering I know the person, stop should be enough. He's a 41 year old Spanish man.

[privategal]

I shouldn't have to. I know the guy. He's set up a mean game because he met someone and tried to help me give me tough love and some sick gang stalk initiation. He's harmless just sick and mean and is trying to do something to me but considering I know the person, stop should be enough. He's a 41 year old Spanish man.

Honey, if you dont address it, it will continue. If its cruel, mean, sick and harming you and your family you need to call the police.

Catfishing, prank calls and emails is stalking and harrasment.

Saying you dont need to or shouldnt have to change your phone number because you know him makes no sense.

Im not sure if you are immature or have issues but you do have to take charge...its wrong what he is doing. Scary too. Get adults and police involved and handle this.

[Zahara]

I shouldn't have to. I know the guy. He's set up a mean game because he met someone and tried to help me give me tough love and some sick gang stalk initiation. He's harmless just sick and mean and is trying to do something to me but considering I know the person, stop should be enough. He's a 41 year old Spanish man.

 

Sometimes you have to be proactive and protect yourself if it means taking the necessary steps to preserve your emotional and mental health.

 

If you choose not to take those steps, then you're going to have to accept whatever comes.

 

Hoping for people to stop bad behavior just because of their age is foolish. You can't complain about it because you have no control or power over what other people choose to do.

[feelsobullied]

Thanks .. You right, he can't get past a crush from three years ago to realize it isn't here today and leave me alone. He has a hard time accepting that I have moved on because I chose to do so without telling anyone. It's no one's business. When a relationship is over, it is over. Sites like this are great to post advice that we are seeking not what someone else thinks we ought to know.

[feelsobullied]

Honey, if you dont address it, it will continue. If its cruel, mean, sick and harming you and your family you need to call the police.

Catfishing, prank calls and emails is stalking and harrasment.

Saying you dont need to or shouldnt have to change your phone number because you know him makes no sense.

Im not sure if you are immature or have issues but you do have to take charge...its wrong what he is doing. Scary too. Get adults and police involved and handle this.

 

 

 

 

I don't think I am either immature and I am 33 years old. I merely move on with my life and have things established to not want the inconvenience. I grew up in an environment in which I don't get scared as easy as you obviously would but Id refrain from macho comments since you don't know me. Immature was a little blunt my dear. That's why you remain private.

[privategal]

You posted this:

"they were listening to my calls and then posting ads using things I was saying. They ripped me and my family apart and I pleaded with him to stop but it made things worse.."

 

If you dont see that as serious and needing for authorities involved...then 33 or not, you are still immature.

I am not posting for my health, I am posting to help. Immature is not an insult, perhaps it was misguided as you had not provided your age but my intent was to provide feedback and it seems yiur not doing anything to help yourself.

[mikeylo]

Someone fill me in! I don't get the issue . What's happening ? Guy harassing her because she chose to dump him and move on ?

[feelsobullied]

Thank you privtegal. I am not usually this sensitive but sometimes they post on all sites so I can read all the reasons why I need to move on which is great. Now if he leaves. They said I was obsessed with him yet they continue to feed the obsession if that's what I have. They also said I was a covert narcissist and to be honest for two years took up my networking with online and real people - let me just start off by saying this is a long and complicated situation and I AM EFFECTED. I am ill. I am not sure what is wrong but I always seem to be sick. My energy has depleted and I had a hard time moving. I know what is wrong with me. I'll keep that to myself. It's medical. I am working on this.

 

 

They had real people tell me I am lazy. I am a baby and all these things because I was not goal driven enough for him. I once did have an infatuation with him but he ruined this for sure and now I don't even like him. I was called so many names and pushed, stalked amongst other things and even now if I look online, they are there which I find sick. I am much more happier offline. I wish it was as easy to press charges but I MADE A MISTAKE. I allowed them to do this which doesn't make them right. It makes them sick in their head because if I am sick, they made me more sick with much more power and abilities and they laugh at me daily.

 

 

I want to know how I can move forward from this and do I want to endure this putting this in the court system when I am probably better off ignoring them for the time being?

[PinkPampies]

Not understanding why you can't block their phone numbers, change your email address... I don't understand if you go 'online', then they suddenly appear online? You have to be logged into something... Facebook, Instagram, etc. just block them. It's easily done.

 

What's with the ads?? They created advertisements about you??

 

Just don't engage them. At all. Block and ignore. It's really simple. If there are threats made, keep a log of them and contact the police.

[feelsobullied]

I shouldn't have to alter my life for a game .. What's the point? These are old coworkers in their 40's who have a problem with me and my life. They feel like I am cow**** and believe I deserve to be treated like crap.

[feelsobullied]

I am having a hard time with a situation that a previous coworker has put me through. He tried to manipulate me and teach me lessons in life and the reality is very hard for me to move forward. I am going to start NC and need some input on how to get over someone causing you so much anger .. I am so angry at the situation and I didn't sleep last night. I am so tired as a result of my lack of sleep and his invasion into my life and cruel behaviors. He deliberately hurt me to teach me a lesson. He lives two provinces away and sends others in my province to show me how unsuccessful I am so that I will aim to be more successful but he isn't in my life to know what I am ..

[Zahara]

How is he getting in touch with you from a distance? Is he sending people to your home or work? Have you blocked these people as suggested to you earlier? How do they invade your life?

 

The advice to block, change your number or go to the police if they're threatening you or coming to your work/home still stands.

Edited July 27, 2016 by Zahara

[Toodaloo]

Feelso.

 

This is not tough love. This is vile.

 

First off if this started in the workplace it should have been stopped.

 

Secondly I am in agreement that you need to ask the police to pop round and point out that this is harassment.

 

Do not respond. Set their emails to go to spam. Bullies get fed up when there is no response. Takes time but they do go away eventually.