Confused2016 Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 (edited) So I've never posted before but I'm really lost right now and I'm hoping maybe you guys could help... So here goes...I met a girl online, she initiated contact and I accepted her request. We started texting, a lot in fact, about everything you know the usual get to know each other stuff. I decided to ask her to meet and she agreed. We met for dinner and hit it off immediately! Things progressed from there and we were spending a lot of time talking and hangin out! After about 3 weeks she started acting distant...I asked her if everything was ok and if there's was something bothering her. She said she needed some space! I admit I got a bit scared as I was falling for her! I told her to take all the space she needed. We kept in contact thru text and a few phone calls. She came back around after a few days and expressed to me that she suffers from generalized anxiety disorder, and that she took medication when it would come on strong and she usually would just spend alone time in her house and become unsocial for a bit, until she felt better. I admit I knew nothing of this disorder! She said it had been kicking her ass since she started seeing me and she was trying to understand why and control it! I told her that I understood and if she needed space to take it. I went on to learn as much as I could about anxiety so I could understand what she was going thru! We continued to spend time together for another month, things were great, we connecting on so many levels! She called me one day and told me she needed some space again, I agreed and told her I was here if she needed me! She said she made a doctors appt and she got a pill to take everyday to help with her anxiety. We talked throughout the week. We had plans to go visit her friends and meet our moms on Mother's Day. She called me on the Thursday before and asked if I stilled wanted to go! I said yes, we went to her friends on Saturday, and then off to meet our moms the following day! Things went well with our parents and she even spent the night with me! She went home and we talked thruout the week. On Friday I got a text saying good morning Sunshine hope u slept well. It went on to say that we needed to set sometime to talk! I agreed to meet her that night, she came over and broke up with me! I don't understand? She tried telling me that she didn't have feelings for me, but I don't believe it, her actions said she did, I read that when people with anxiety withdraw they say things that aren't true to get away, a quick fix to their anxiety! I really like her and I'm not sure what to do! I accepted the break up gave her, her things back that were at my house! She asked to be friends and I said no as my feelings for her are more than just friends, she told me she loved me and we walked away! I have not talked to her since but I miss her! Edited May 31, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs ~6
azaleigha Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 Oh, I'm so sorry you went through that. It must have been really difficult to be blindsided like that, with something you absolutely weren't expecting. Has she tried to talk to you since the last time you saw her? It's possible that her anxiety is causing her to feel unable to be in a relationship right now, or that some aspect of it affects her ability to connect at this point. It sounds like it's probably best right now to give her her space and let her feel the way she feels. Maybe down the road things will be different, or maybe the two of you just really aren't meant to be together, as much as that hurts to hear. I hope that you're able to let go of her so you can be open for other opportunities that might come around, and maybe there's something you can learn from this relationship that you can bring to your next relationship to make it stronger. Hang in there, friend. Let yourself miss her, but try not to be so caught up in longing for this relationship that you're not able to move forward. Blessings to you!
Author Confused2016 Posted June 2, 2016 Author Posted June 2, 2016 No I went no contact 7 days ago, to give space and time!
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