LookAtThisPOst Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 There was this woman in my area...living on the outer fringes of a national forest, that was on OK Cupid. She's not originally ffrom this area and moved here for her job. And let's just say her IQ is quite higher than the residents lol Very intelligent and knows how to carry a convo. We had corresponded months ago, but then lost touch. She'd pop up on the columns of OK Cupid, but showed "last online" like weeks ago, she just stopped logging in. Then caught her online today and reached out to her, citing we had spoken before and somehow lost touch. She said she hasn't been on the site much lately as events in her life transpired. She said she'll be moving to New Zealand in a couple of months. I was thinking, "Wow" first here, now...there. Not even in the states. I'm thinking she's more self-employed as she sells crafts and has an employer that's not of the career variety. If you look at her, she's an attractive hippie chick. Long dresses to her feet, but clean and smart. Has a tattoo of a large, tree on her calf. Anyhow, I've come across quite a few transient types and I was wondering if you would do the short term thing with them on a no-strings set up, or would try something more? Do you find these people to be stable?
Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 Do you find these people to be stable? Well yeah.. we aren't talking about bums riding the rails and posting from free internet as they go from city to city. We are talking about people living their lives and doing what they need to to live, some rolling with the punches and others throwing those punches. I have a few neighbors around me that have moved 2 or 3 times in the last few years and they have children, they are stable and have moved for a variety of reasons, one whose parent got sick and was quite old but owned a farm in another state needed them to help run it, another got laid off from the banking industry a couple of times.. tough industry and another who were now empty nesters but couldn't find a place they could call home yet. I don't think moving around means instability.. If they are young it might mean they haven't "Met" the one yet and haven't planted roots or found a place they can call home yet.. 2
Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 Maybe she was lying? .. there is always this possibility too..
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 31, 2016 Author Posted May 31, 2016 Well yeah.. we aren't talking about bums riding the rails and posting from free internet as they go from city to city. We are talking about people living their lives and doing what they need to to live, some rolling with the punches and others throwing those punches. I have a few neighbors around me that have moved 2 or 3 times in the last few years and they have children, they are stable and have moved for a variety of reasons, one whose parent got sick and was quite old but owned a farm in another state needed them to help run it, another got laid off from the banking industry a couple of times.. tough industry and another who were now empty nesters but couldn't find a place they could call home yet. I don't think moving around means instability.. If they are young it might mean they haven't "Met" the one yet and haven't planted roots or found a place they can call home yet.. Yeah, there's this one woman on OK Cupid, we've been talking, but told me up front that she thought our belief systems would be too different. She's a European Buddhist living in the back water Bible belt. She has noticed this, but has "will travel anywhere" in her profile, meaning she has no problem making the hour long commute neighboring large cities far away from BFE. lol She's not here for the long haul however, and plans on going back to Europe to be with her family. Kind of makes me wonder why she is even seeking someone here if she's just a VISA holder (well, I'm just assuming she's a VISA worker if she isn't here for long). There are some companies that send people to the US to work several months and then go back to their home country again. Don't ask me how dating would even work out for them if they were here for the short term though. Of course, the aforementioned woman in the mentioned post is a US citizen. I wonder how long their leases are on their apartments? lol Do they just cut out on the lease? They just drop contracts and obligations? If they have "looking for long term" what's the point? Of course, some guys think they may try for a short-term fling/FWB (wink wink) before they leave. lol
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 31, 2016 Author Posted May 31, 2016 .. there is always this possibility too.. Yeah, I'm just waiting them to ask me to wire them some money. 1
Art_Critic Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 I wonder how long their leases are on their apartments? lol Do they just cut out on the lease? They just drop contracts and obligations? Speaking of that, I have seen many young people go from lease to lease every 6 months, they apartment hop as the lease almost always goes up the next time you sign it and they go to the cheaper rent... I haven't seen any move from city to city however.. just move around the same basic area but I'm sure some move like that and job hop moving from city to city.. Stable.. that to me isn't all that stable but they are normally young so it doesn't matter
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 31, 2016 Author Posted May 31, 2016 Speaking of that, I have seen many young people go from lease to lease every 6 months, they apartment hop as the lease almost always goes up the next time you sign it and they go to the cheaper rent... I haven't seen any move from city to city however.. just move around the same basic area but I'm sure some move like that and job hop moving from city to city.. Stable.. that to me isn't all that stable but they are normally young so it doesn't matter Well, this one woman I spoke of is in her middle 30s, figured she'd be wanting to stick around for the long haul than be a world traveler.
scorpiogirl Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 If you look at her, she's an attractive hippie chick. Long dresses to her feet, but clean and smart. Has a tattoo of a large, tree on her calf. Do you find these people to be stable?. Wow, no judgement in your post at all. She's a hippie, BUT she's clean?? These people? What do you think people say or think about your profile? He's unattractive and bald but he looks clean ... And yes, my guess too is that they're lying because you are being persistent. They weren't interested first time round but you wouldn't leave them alone. So now they're "transient".
ChocolateRain Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 on OK Cupid, i have an account there on OKC but i think this site is Bogus .... a lot of fake profiles there . i got messages from Profiles from what i thought was real with pictures and all and once i communicated ,you get join me on kik ????? i googled KiK and they warn that these are scammers ... so OKC to me is waste of time ...
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 31, 2016 Author Posted May 31, 2016 . Wow, no judgement in your post at all. She's a hippie, BUT she's clean?? These people? Not judging at all, just simply stating the facts. A simple description of the woman, that is all. What do you think people say or think about your profile? He's unattractive and bald but he looks clean ... I'm sure some woman would probably describe me as such. No biggie. And yes, my guess too is that they're lying because you are being persistent. They weren't interested first time round but you wouldn't leave them alone. So now they're "transient" Hardly persistent if I hadn't contacted her in months actually.
scorpiogirl Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 Not judging at all, just simply stating the facts. A simple description of the woman, that is all. I'm sure some woman would probably describe me as such. No biggie. Hardly persistent if I hadn't contacted her in months actually. If she said no thanks once, and you contact her again-days or weeks or months later, it's unwanted, and hence persistent. And describing someone as "but she's clean" drips with judgement. Who says that about someone? 2
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 31, 2016 Author Posted May 31, 2016 If she said no thanks once, and you contact her again-days or weeks or months later, it's unwanted, and hence persistent. To me...persistence would be daily or weekly. We're talking several months, which is not persistent at all. I've even had a female friend advise me to keep in touch on occasion. She's had guys do this to her, and when the timing was right, she'd go out with them. And describing someone as "but she's clean" drips with judgement. Who says that about someone? To say she's "clean" is hardly judgmental as the area in which she resides is known for trailer trash types. When I say "clean" I mean presentable. Dresses nice. Doesn't partake in heavy drinking or tobacco products like the rest of the locals.
Imajerk17 Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 (edited) That she is able to pack up and move to another country to try to make a life for herself there means she is much more than "stable", LATP. I think instead it puts her ahead of the curve. I think most people wish they have the opportunity and the guts to go for something like that! In all fairness to the OP, "persistent" or not, she is voluntarily communicating with him when she could just as easily ignore and block him. So I don't see anything wrong w him contacting her. Anyway getting back to the topic, if this woman will meet up with you LATP, I think you should go for it--her energy rubbing off on you would probably be good for you. Just make sure she doesn't see any of your threads on here about women who travel. Edited May 31, 2016 by Imajerk17
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