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I have a guy friend and I am interested in him. I texted him 5 days ago. This is how the conversation went.

 

Me: How was your graduation?

Him: It was very nice. Thanks for asking! My mother was very proud. How is the new job so far?

Me: Aww she should be. My job is much better, but my boss still curses everyday lol

 

It 's been 5 days. Should I text him? If yes, what should I text him?

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No, dont text him

 

If he wants you...he'll come to you

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HansonGirl Established Member

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I agree with Disillusionment. Ball is in his court.

Although if you want to be brave you can ask him if he'd like to join you at the pool (or some other activity you'd like to do).

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The ball is definitely not in his court... there was absolutely no flirting or banter there... that was a plain ol' conversation.

 

Yes, text the guy.

 

We're guys, we don't look at things like that and think, "Man she's into me," unless it literally slaps us in the face sometimes... and even then we still think, "Nah, she's not into me."

 

LOL!

 

Guys can be idiots... text him and start another conversation. FLIRT!

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He may or may not realize that you were interested, but if HE were interested in dating you, he would at least keep the conversation going when you reached out. Right now, you're trying to pull teeth to get anything going with your texts. It's the perfect example of someone who feels obligated to respond out of politeness, not interest. If he could ignore the message without appearing rude, he would have. White rice is less bland and more interesting than his response.

 

I agree with Disillusionment. Let this go.

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I agree with Disillusionment. Ball is in his court.

Although if you want to be brave you can ask him if he'd like to join you at the pool (or some other activity you'd like to do).

 

 

The ball is not in his court. That text conversation was purely platonic, there was no hint of interest beyond friendship and it was all very safe.

 

As far as he's concerned, a friend just asked him how his day went.

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truth_seeker Established Member

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Unbelievable the contrast of opinions between men and women on this topic...

 

Women - stay silent, do nothing, let him come to you.

 

Men - make a move as the guy doesn't know she is interest.

 

My Take: she is dropping a hint by reaching out. She is testing the waters. The problem here is that JarodOner is right - guys can be idiots and naive. This guy is one of them. So in this situation the woman has to make the move.

 

Amazing how some women think in absolute terms.

 

- Don't Contact

- Let Him Come to You

 

By doing this many opportunities can be lost :(

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I have a guy friend and I am interested in him. I texted him 5 days ago. This is how the conversation went.

 

Me: How was your graduation?

Him: It was very nice. Thanks for asking! My mother was very proud. How is the new job so far?

Me: Aww she should be. My job is much better, but my boss still curses everyday lol

 

It 's been 5 days. Should I text him? If yes, what should I text him?

 

Yes, you should text him again.

 

If a female friend texted me that out of the blue and that was the exchange, I wouldn't think anything of it.

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Yes, you should text him again.

 

If a female friend texted me that out of the blue and that was the exchange, I wouldn't think anything of it.

 

 

She shouldn't text him again, she should woman up and give him a call.

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the ball is not in his court. That text conversation was purely platonic, there was no hint of interest beyond friendship and it was all very safe.

 

As far as he's concerned, a friend just asked him how his day went.

 

canni-get-an-amen?!?!

 

Lol!

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megan12345 New Member

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It's his birthday this Saturday. He never told me this, but I saw it on Facebook in the upcoming birthday section. He could think that I'm stalking him on Facebook, which is not attractive.

 

Should I text him "Happy Birthday" on Saturday?

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It's his birthday this Saturday. He never told me this, but I saw it on Facebook in the upcoming birthday section. He could think that I'm stalking him on Facebook, which is not attractive.

 

Should I text him "Happy Birthday" on Saturday?

 

Sure you can, but he will still have no idea you are interested in him.

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It's his birthday this Saturday. He never told me this, but I saw it on Facebook in the upcoming birthday section. He could think that I'm stalking him on Facebook, which is not attractive.

 

Should I text him "Happy Birthday" on Saturday?

 

How are you stalking him on Facebook? If you're friends, you get alerts about upcoming birthdays... write him: "Hey! It says on my FB it's your Birthday! Happy Birthday! Drinks on me :)"

 

There's your in to ask him out without actually asking him out :)

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You could text him on his birthday, it would be a nice gesture. But it still doesn't say "I am interested" on your part. I see the battle of the sexes emerging from this post, but this is my answer:

 

If the man was interested, he can't wait to contact a woman again. And I'm not getting that feeling from him based on what you shared. I'd move on.

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Well , contact him , just ask how is his day going and see how the conversation go ,

If I had a slight of interest in a girl who was texting me , I'd call her to set a meet-up over coffee or whatever , just very casual outing to determine if she is worthy of a first date

 

however , any signs of flaking or BSing and I am gone for good , even if she asked me out again , I'd be like "No , you've had your chance and you blew it "

 

good luck

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If the man was interested, he can't wait to contact a woman again. And I'm not getting that feeling from him based on what you shared. I'd move on.

 

Yes and No.

 

Right now I'm taking to a woman on a dating app and I wait for her to contact me. I am interested but not super interested... but if I had that "loving feeling" I would get off my ass and make it a point I would see her and she wouldfall in love with me :D

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megan12345 New Member

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I'm pretty sure he is not interested in me. It's been a week since we texted and I initiated the last text conversation. He's been active on Facebook, he liked other people's pictures and what not.

 

I may look pathetic. Is it even worth texting him on his birthday?

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It's his birthday this Saturday. He never told me this, but I saw it on Facebook in the upcoming birthday section. He could think that I'm stalking him on Facebook, which is not attractive.

 

Should I text him "Happy Birthday" on Saturday?

 

If you're gonna text him, then for heaven's sake engage him.

 

Text him something with a ? at the end.... something for him to respond to.

 

Your last text did not require a response.

 

He asked YOU a question and then you answered him. Done.

 

Ask him questions back! Like I said, engage him!

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megan12345 New Member

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Just "Happy Birthday!" doesn't require a response and he may ignore it.

 

So on Saturday, what is a good text to send him?

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Just "Happy Birthday!" doesn't require a response and he may ignore it.

 

So on Saturday, what is a good text to send him?

"Happy Birthday! Have any fun plans? No doubt you do, but how about I buy you a drink tomorrow night? I am pretty much laying low for the weekend. Let me know and enjoy your day!"

 

That's pretty bold but what the hell.

 

Worst he could say is no. And you are friends after all... so IMO this could be a text from just a friend too. No doubt he will be wondering! Which is good.

 

Then when you are out, FLIRT WITH HIM.

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It's his birthday this Saturday. He never told me this, but I saw it on Facebook in the upcoming birthday section. He could think that I'm stalking him on Facebook, which is not attractive.

 

Should I text him "Happy Birthday" on Saturday?

 

Of course!

 

That's why FB has that feature to let everyone know it's their friends birthday.

 

But... FLIRT!

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