Should I break no contact??

[layla_13]

My boyfriend broke up with me after 9 years together (lived together for 7 years) he did this suddenly, although we hadn't been getting on for a while before, I think this was because we were both busy working and not making time for each other a priority or at least he wasn't making me a priority. We were renting an apartment and this made it difficult to save up for a house resulting in both of us feeling like our relationship wasn't progressing. He told me that day that we both weren't happy and it was for the best, he couldn't even look at me I left that day in shock not realising this was going to be the last time I would see him. I asked him if he was sure when I left and he let me go, my whole world collapsed. I texted him over the next few days to try and get some answers, I suggested a break but all I got were generic replies and he was so cold like he didn't even know me. I moved out that week, he has stayed there and I wonder how he can bare to be there with all the memories etc I asked if we could at least meet and talk but he said it isn't a good idea to see each other again Each heartfelt text I sent resulted in me feeling worse because he would either not reply or if he did he wouldn't respond to anything I had asked him or mentioned it was just cold genetic messages. As a result I haven't been in touch for 6 weeks (broke up 7 weeks ago) I have been heartbroken and still can't believe we aren't together anymore. He didn't text me on my birthday which was really hard, I keep hoping that he will text me or get in touch but the longer I am in no contact with him I worry that he is just going to forget about me and I will never see or talk to him again. Some days it hits me what has happened and I can't breathe I just miss him so much it hurts, he was my best friend and he has gone just like that. I want to text him or call so much but I know if he wanted to see me he would or should get in touch first. I'm just not ready to accept it yet and hope that if he and I both have space he will change his mind. I just don't know what to do? I worry he will meet someone else and that alone is unbearable. I have been trying to keep busy and do things to improve myself and my confidence but I just feel like I am waiting and he may never want to see or speak to me again. I feel like I have lost everything and my life as I knew it only weeks ago and I just don't know what to do? x

[privategal]

My boyfriend broke up with me after 9 years together (lived together for 7 years) he did this suddenly, although we hadn't been getting on for a while before, I think this was because we were both busy working and not making time for each other a priority or at least he wasn't making me a priority. We were renting an apartment and this made it difficult to save up for a house resulting in both of us feeling like our relationship wasn't progressing. He told me that day that we both weren't happy and it was for the best, he couldn't even look at me I left that day in shock not realising this was going to be the last time I would see him. I asked him if he was sure when I left and he let me go, my whole world collapsed. I texted him over the next few days to try and get some answers, I suggested a break but all I got were generic replies and he was so cold like he didn't even know me. I moved out that week, he has stayed there and I wonder how he can bare to be there with all the memories etc I asked if we could at least meet and talk but he said it isn't a good idea to see each other again Each heartfelt text I sent resulted in me feeling worse because he would either not reply or if he did he wouldn't respond to anything I had asked him or mentioned it was just cold genetic messages. As a result I haven't been in touch for 6 weeks (broke up 7 weeks ago) I have been heartbroken and still can't believe we aren't together anymore. He didn't text me on my birthday which was really hard, I keep hoping that he will text me or get in touch but the longer I am in no contact with him I worry that he is just going to forget about me and I will never see or talk to him again. Some days it hits me what has happened and I can't breathe I just miss him so much it hurts, he was my best friend and he has gone just like that. I want to text him or call so much but I know if he wanted to see me he would or should get in touch first. I'm just not ready to accept it yet and hope that if he and I both have space he will change his mind. I just don't know what to do? I worry he will meet someone else and that alone is unbearable. I have been trying to keep busy and do things to improve myself and my confidence but I just feel like I am waiting and he may never want to see or speak to me again. I feel like I have lost everything and my life as I knew it only weeks ago and I just don't know what to do? x

 

 

I am SO sorry for your hurt.

His answers are unemotional as he had been thinking, preparing and weighing pros and cons like dumpers do. He had already gone through the pain and tough emotion, he was ready and sure, it wasnt out of the blue.

He was unhappy and decided it was time.

It truly is over. He isnt trying to ignore you, so he gives you basic answers to at least acknowledge but its like spending time with a very drunk friend when you are stone sober.

You are very upset and emotional but he is not there..he is past that and has decided its for the best.

It is hurtful, you guys were stuck and he took action.

I hope you can stay NC and heal.