Gnl_x Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 A bit of back story me and my ex were together for over a year I fell pregnant and I sadly had a termination due to multiple factors I will not go into a week after my partner left me and said he would see me in a years time to catch up which I found weird. Fast forward it's been a month he's agreed to see me but said ' don't try and come on to me or I will leave'. What on earth am I meant to take from that I'm super confused as I never implied to meet up for sex or anything like that it was literally arranged to clear the air because we went through too much for it to end on the bitter blunt note it ended on. Can anyone else explain why he was so adamant that if I apparently 'came on to him' he would leave 1
CarrieT Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 Somehow he is afraid you are going to beg or seduce him back into a relationship. He doesn't sound like someone you should waste your time with so why are you bothering to meet up with him anyway? 5
Author Gnl_x Posted May 30, 2016 Author Posted May 30, 2016 Hmm yeah I figure you're right, but I've made it clear prior to this that I don't want him not once since we broke up have I asked for a second chance or begged him to get back with me. And honestly I feel like I need to see him simply because it will put my mind at ease because the way we parted was ugly and it's tainted my conscience. 1
Author Gnl_x Posted May 30, 2016 Author Posted May 30, 2016 Hmm no he said he doesn't want intimacy so how so? Plus we will be in a public place 1
d0nnivain Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 I can't imagine anything that he has to say will kind to you. I'm sorry about the loss of your child. You know what kind of man your EX is -- unreliable. Before you decide to go see him make sure you know what you get out of the encounter. 1
Author Gnl_x Posted May 30, 2016 Author Posted May 30, 2016 I can't imagine anything that he has to say will kind to you. I'm sorry about the loss of your child. You know what kind of man your EX is -- unreliable. Before you decide to go see him make sure you know what you get out of the encounter. He had refused completely to see me until now I just wonder what made him give in and why he's fixated on this idea I'm going to jump all over him
lalalandman Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 I mean, I usually start off in a public place before I hook up with a girl
privategal Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 He is maybe agreeing out of guilt, he is afking you not to force the issue as he isnt too keen on meeting, he doesnt want to deal with your emotion and hear about the child loss, so he will meet you on his terms, in his timing, when he is ready, but not because he wants to..but rather he sees you pressing the issue on it..apparently its what YOU need and he knows the only way he will not look like a jerk and to have a clear conscience he doesnt look like a jerk or the bad guy is to half heartedly reluctantly meet you and get this "closure" out of the way and done... for you...(he doesnt need it, he's moved on)
basil67 Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 He had refused completely to see me until now I just wonder what made him give in and why he's fixated on this idea I'm going to jump all over him He's just setting up boundaries to make sure you don't try to persuade him back. As to why he has the idea that you might try something....when he broke up with you, did you try and talk him out of it?
Author Gnl_x Posted May 30, 2016 Author Posted May 30, 2016 No I didn't not once did I even beg him to be with me again I just was going through so many emotions losing my twins and then him that I was grieving and wanted him by my side for support
basil67 Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 No I didn't not once did I even beg him to be with me again I just was going through so many emotions losing my twins and then him that I was grieving and wanted him by my side for support I'm so sorry that you were in such a dark time. However, you did try and keep him around. This would be what he's wary of. Personally, I wouldn't meet with him until you really don't care what or how he feels.
hoping2heal Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 A bit of back story me and my ex were together for over a year I fell pregnant and I sadly had a termination due to multiple factors I will not go into a week after my partner left me and said he would see me in a years time to catch up which I found weird. Fast forward it's been a month he's agreed to see me but said ' don't try and come on to me or I will leave'. What on earth am I meant to take from that I'm super confused as I never implied to meet up for sex or anything like that it was literally arranged to clear the air because we went through too much for it to end on the bitter blunt note it ended on. Can anyone else explain why he was so adamant that if I apparently 'came on to him' he would leave In short, it means that your ex finds you manipulative and he doesn't want you to try anything. Does your ex actually want to see you?
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