Dark Horse Posted June 17, 2016 Share Posted June 17, 2016 Attractive/young/socially savvy/"cool" women ... which is not all women. I'm similar to this posted -- 33F, never been in a relationship, neurotypical men (my preference) aren't attracted to me. I assume it's because I'm fat. *shrug* Perhaps there are more men who experience this, but there are also many women suffering silently, not the least because no one believes us, so we stop talking about it. ETA: Thank you to the OP for starting this thread. It's nice to hear I'm not the only one. I hope you manage to find someone, though -- it's not a great thing to have in common! You're an aspie girl I see. I'm an aspie as well, well a young 21 year old aspie guy. Autism and dating don't exactly go together too well. Dating is hard, being autistic and dating is even harder. I know at least 40+ teens/20 year olds with autism and I guarantee you that most of them are virgins and never had a girlfriend. I'm not bashing anybody i'm just stating what I have observed. It's kind of sad to be honest. Also have you ever considered attempting to lose weight? Getting into fitness, eating less junk food and eating fruits and vegetables? Switch to a liquid based diet, drink lots of fruit smoothies. Get out and walk around the block. Get a nice looking asss. You'll look better, you'll feel better stuff like that. Because I know from observing that a lot of people with autism don't put much effort into their appearance. Humans are judgemental creatures, they will judge you based on how you look even if it's sub-conciously. It's sad but true, people will treat you with less respect if you look unpresentable. That's why you always want to try to look good and not dress is trashy outfits and shower at least every other day but preferebly every day. And dedicate yourself to working on your body as well because like I said, if you can get to a normal weight you will feel better and gain more confidence and confidence is attractive. (same with a nice asss, google how to get a better looking one) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted June 17, 2016 Share Posted June 17, 2016 You're an aspie girl I see. I'm an aspie as well, well a young 21 year old aspie guy. Autism and dating don't exactly go together too well. Dating is hard, being autistic and dating is even harder. I know at least 40+ teens/20 year olds with autism and I guarantee you that most of them are virgins and never had a girlfriend. I'm not bashing anybody i'm just stating what I have observed. It's kind of sad to be honest. Also have you ever considered attempting to lose weight? Getting into fitness, eating less junk food and eating fruits and vegetables? Switch to a liquid based diet, drink lots of fruit smoothies. Get out and walk around the block. Get a nice looking asss. You'll look better, you'll feel better stuff like that. Because I know from observing that a lot of people with autism don't put much effort into their appearance. Humans are judgemental creatures, they will judge you based on how you look even if it's sub-conciously. It's sad but true, people will treat you with less respect if you look unpresentable. That's why you always want to try to look good and not dress is trashy outfits and shower at least every other day but preferebly every day. And dedicate yourself to working on your body as well because like I said, if you can get to a normal weight you will feel better and gain more confidence and confidence is attractive. (same with a nice asss, google how to get a better looking one) Ya, I have Aspergers as well too Link to post Share on other sites
shoplocal Posted June 18, 2016 Share Posted June 18, 2016 You're an aspie girl I see. I'm an aspie as well, well a young 21 year old aspie guy. Autism and dating don't exactly go together too well. Dating is hard, being autistic and dating is even harder. I know at least 40+ teens/20 year olds with autism and I guarantee you that most of them are virgins and never had a girlfriend. I'm not bashing anybody i'm just stating what I have observed. It's kind of sad to be honest. Also have you ever considered attempting to lose weight? Getting into fitness, eating less junk food and eating fruits and vegetables? Switch to a liquid based diet, drink lots of fruit smoothies. Get out and walk around the block. Get a nice looking asss. You'll look better, you'll feel better stuff like that. Because I know from observing that a lot of people with autism don't put much effort into their appearance. Humans are judgemental creatures, they will judge you based on how you look even if it's sub-conciously. It's sad but true, people will treat you with less respect if you look unpresentable. That's why you always want to try to look good and not dress is trashy outfits and shower at least every other day but preferebly every day. And dedicate yourself to working on your body as well because like I said, if you can get to a normal weight you will feel better and gain more confidence and confidence is attractive. (same with a nice asss, google how to get a better looking one) Thank you for sharing your thoughts! AFAIK, I'm neither autistic/aspie -- but I attract men who are literally retarded, HFA, etc, and have a relative who is an aspie. So I'm aware of the difference. I have tried unsuccessfully to lose weight, but I have lacked the discipline to stay hungry and sweaty for long enough to reach a somewhat normal/acceptable weight. (I'm pretty huge, so we're talking a year or more of this.) I'm not blaming diets or workouts, I'm def blaming myself! OTOH, I was overlooked by my male classmates when I was young and slim, so it's not just my weight that makes me a no-go for men. Dating is definitely visual, and in my 20s I went the hair/makeup/clothes route to attract men, but I was already fat. It did absolutely nothing for me. I've since developed a unique personal style and feel a lot more confident, and that has actually helped me interact successfully with men, including flirting! But still no one is interested in dating me, so I think the problem lies with something more core than my outsides. All of this is not to be ungrateful for your tips, just say that I've been there and done that. I'm tired in some ways, and a slave to hope in others. But more than that, it's nice to know I'm not the only one in the whole world having this experience, even if I'm alone in my world with it. You know what I mean? Link to post Share on other sites
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted June 19, 2016 Share Posted June 19, 2016 Ya oh well, the mating dance looks a lot more simple in other animals Link to post Share on other sites
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