sadgirlRN Posted June 23, 2005 Posted June 23, 2005 hey all, maybe you can shed some light on my situation. i was dating this guy for about 8 months. we did the distance thing but it seemed to work well for us. we saw each other pretty frequently and were totally in love. the times we spent together were amazing. about three weeks ago everything was still good, he was telling me how much he loved me, how much he missed me and how bummed he was i wasnt coming to see him that weekend. then four days later he says hes overwhelmed with his life and needs space. he says he still loves me, in fact he said "hes never had feelings like this before" but just needs some time, he doesn't want to see other people but needs time. it was really hard but i love him and said i would do whatever he needed. then the phone calls start to spread out more and after two weeks of not talking at all he picks a fight over text message and doesn't talk to me for three days! he finally calls me two nights ago and says we're broken up and have been for three weeks now. when i called him out on his flip flopping emotions his only response was i dont know. then he says he's so overwhelmed with his life he can't feel his feelings for me. he goes on to say he wants to be friends. then he starts complementing me! Says he doesnt regret the last 8 months, that he loved every moment we were together, said he never met someone like me before, that i was amazing and had qualities he'll never find in another. and as we were hanging up he said "thank you for an amazing 8 months". i dont get it!! how can he say all these things and then say but i don't want to be in a relationship. i am so confused and he's not giving me answers. any thoughts would be great.
lostinmymind Posted June 24, 2005 Posted June 24, 2005 Sounds all too familiar.... I'd say he's just not ready for a relationship just like he says or he isn't into you. Only time will tell, you aren't gonna get an answer out of him now. Give him his time, if he comes back..great..if not then you will hopefully be over it by then. He is either: a) Letting you down easy by saying all these nice things. b) He really does still love you, but needs to get away. If this is the case he is being a really great guy by telling you it's over and not leading you on. You know him the best...which do you think he's doing? You know all the answers, but when you are hurt it's hard to see them. Just give it time to heal. Good Luck
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