greenman77 Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 I started talking with a girl on OkCupid and we exchanged a few messages but I haven't heard back from her since Saturday. I am talking to a few other girls but she is the one I have most in common with and I like her a lot. I was planning on waiting about 48 hours passed before messaging her again. Sending her something along the lines of: "Hey I know that messaging through this app can be a bit of a pain sometimes, would you like to exchange numbers and text that way better? My number is 555-555-5555." She seemed very enthusiastic and always asking lots of questions in her replies, so to me, it seems like shes interested and maybe just forgot to reply or something. What do you guys think? Should I wait a little longer or go for the message? I'm hesitant because I'm not a big fan of the double message... Seems a bit desperate in my opinion. What do you think?
d0nnivain Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 It's a holiday weekend & the unofficial kick off to summer. She's probably out living her life, not being glued to her computer. Do not telegraph you have nothing better to do by pestering her. Wait until Wednesday, giving her tomorrow to recover, then say something about how you hope she enjoyed the holiday. Then you can offer your phone # but do ask for hers. Until you get hers, assume she won't make the 1st move by calling you 2
smackie9 Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 Never start off with a message like :Hey I know you must be busy, or I'm guessing you may not be interested, or Hey I'm just wondering, etc Always be up beat, positive, maybe throw in some humor and be straight and to the point.....just ask her for a meet up. You already have talked to her, next step is asking her out before someone else scoops her up. 1
Philosopher Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 I would not. She almost certainly will have received your first message and will either have read it or will read at some point. Sending a double message is likely to come off as desperate and will not do you any favours. There are several reasons why she may not have replied. She could have had a busy weekend, she may be on vacation or perhaps she is not feeling that well. I have some girls reply after a week, even two weeks in some cases.
preraph Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 Double messaging just looks desperate, and there's no reason for it at all once you know they are going days without answering. She probably is just busy, but messaging her again won't change that.
RoseHeart Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 Give her some time. If she is really interested she won't "forget" to reply. She'll be so keen to chat that she'd message you. Be patient.
JarodOner Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 TBH, I've never thought the double message was desperate... It's literally all in how you do it. I've had messages die when it was a good banter and a simple, "AHEM," or "Well, well, well..." got the conversation going again. Don't overthink it. If you want to message her, message her. A quick tip though... get these girls you're messaging off the dating app/site ASAP. The quicker they're off there and texting/talking to you, the sooner you can set up a date.
Erik30 Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 It depends on what you sent her. If your last message was a question, don't send anything. If you just made a comment that didn't really require a reply from her, you could send another message.
katiegrl Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 (edited) Do not message again. Give her a chance to think about you and miss you! It builds attraction. People become so anxious, they end up texting again and sometimes again after that, and the other person never gets a chance to wonder about you and miss you. Big mistake.... Go out and get busy, that is probably what she is doing. Edited May 30, 2016 by katiegrl
truth_seeker Posted May 31, 2016 Posted May 31, 2016 There are several reasons why she may not have replied. She could have had a busy weekend, she may be on vacation or perhaps she is not feeling that well. I have some girls reply after a week, even two weeks in some cases. If a girl is contacting you after a week or two, usually that's an indicator they're talking to other men higher on their list... it didn't work out so they're going down their list and back to you.
Author greenman77 Posted May 31, 2016 Author Posted May 31, 2016 Thanks for the replies guys! Really appreciate it! I'm gonna wait a couple of more days and if I haven't heard back from her then, then I'm just go for it and text her again. If nothing comes of it, its fine, it just wasn't mean to be.
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