Ghosting UPDATE

[Jabron1]

After 4 dates of which you admit you enjoyed... You went 10 DAYS without contacting him. 10 DAYS! 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 days. Why did you even do that. Please learn from this.

 

I think a lot of times, what a woman thinks is 'ghosting' is just a failure on her part to do some initiating.

 

anytime a man talks about a woman acting crazy, i have to ask what did he do to her? because it's stupid frustrating p.o.s. actions that men do to women that cause them to 'act crazy'...when reality is, all it is is a woman being fed up by a man's bad behavior and lack of communication skills.

 

I have been flaked on / ghosted on loads. It happens.

 

As far as I'm concerned, if I double text and get no answer, I'm moving on.

 

That's that.

 

Your problem is that you think people should act a certain way. Rather than just accept that they don't.

 

You can go on about morality until the cows come home. Accept reality instead.

 

It was only 4 dates. You barely knew each other. This shouldn't be so much skin off your nose.

[d0nnivain]

After 4 dates of which you admit you enjoyed... You went 10 DAYS without contacting him. 10 DAYS! 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 days. Why did you even do that. Please learn from this.

 

 

She went on a vacation that was planned before she ever met this guy. She told him that she was going away. people have no obligation whatsoever to keep in touch with a new person while on vacation. The OP told the guy she was going away & part of her frustration is that HE told her HH would call her when she got back. He didn't.

 

 

This part . . . 10 days of being out of touch . . . was simply a fact of life.

[kittyxo]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I have been ghosted by two guys in the past and it SUCKS! You're right though, the negative feelings just drag on..

 

This one guy who ghosted me texted me every single day, we went on dates, kissed..and then he went quiet. When I texted him to see if he was alive, he msgd right away.

 

I have read a ton of articles and threads on this because I felt like I was going crazy. And I also felt like WHAT DID I EVEN DOO??

 

You have to remember that this is none of your fault..Mostly when guys ghost they do so because they want to avoid that awkward talk of "this isn't working out". As easy as it would be for them to just tell us honestly, I think no guy wants to really upset a girl they had feelings for. So they disappear thinking that's the easier way out.

 

I think that every guy that ghosts really isn't ok with that decision. They have to feel some sort of guilt that stays with them for a long time. So while you're dealing with negative feelings now, I'm sure that loser will probably end up thinking about you in the near future and regretting his decision on it.

 

Drink some lemonade in the mean time