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Okay so I was on tinder and matched with some guy. He messaged me and started talking and we had a nice convo and he told me he thought I was amazing and wanted to go on a date. We went on a date I was kind of in a bad mood and when I saw the guy I wasn't into him. Like I was kinda being bitchy and he sat beside me instead of across and when he would come closer I would kinda move away. At the end of the date I wanted to split the bill and he insisted he pay but I still went ahead with the separate bills. I felt bad for what I did and thought he was a really nice guy and I'm probably missing out on a lot. So I randomly texted him and started talking. Than again I sent him some funny video and he told me to message him on Facebook. We had a normal conversation about general stuff, I never flirted with him or anything. He showed me his cat and I kinda teased him about it and he's like "I stopped liking u as soon u hated my cat" and stuff like that. Than yesterday he kept saying "I know you like me that's why you tease me" and he kept saying "I know deep down you love me" "I know you like Me" he said it 4-5 times and I would tell him that I hardly know him and I didn't feel that way. Than my friend told me to tell him that I don't think things will work out to see how he would react. He said "we're just friends so chill" and asked me why I said that in the first place. Than later my friend told me to say "cause u keep shoving "I like you" into my face like a pussy wanting to be chased and how he should no be a dick head". Well he didn't take it well saying how he's not a dick head and once again Insisting that I like him because I initiated contact. I told him how I hardly know him and I can't love him and he's like "I know you love me". Than I told him since he initiated contact in the first place and asked me out on a date I can say the same thing about him. He's like what do u want me to do about that now? I said nothing. Than he calls me a bitch and said he mistaken my extra chattiness as a sign of interest. I even asked him when he said " I know u like Me", If I was annoying him and he would always say no

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This guy's issues are the same as yours: You are trying to establish relationships through a hook-up site and texting instead of spending quality time with each other In Real Life and getting know the person through talking, body language, and visual cues.

 

You are also over-analyzing his playful banter (which is over-the-top for my taste) instead of calling him on it and - again - hanging out together without the electronic media to see if you are really compatible.

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This guy's issues are the same as yours: You are trying to establish relationships through a hook-up site and texting instead of spending quality time with each other In Real Life and getting know the person through talking, body language, and visual cues.

 

You are also over-analyzing his playful banter (which is over-the-top for my taste) instead of calling him on it and - again - hanging out together without the electronic media to see if you are really compatible.

 

Wait! You think he's being playful? I think he's being an *******

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Wait! You think he's being playful? I think he's being an *******

 

I think you're fairly even on that front.

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Two different interpretations of this guy's texts/messages. Precisely why you shouldn't be relying on such modes of communication for the bulk of your interactions. It's a lot harder to misunderstand someone when you're hearing the tone and inflections of what they're saying.

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Two different interpretations of this guy's texts/messages. Precisely why you shouldn't be relying on such modes of communication for the bulk of your interactions. It's a lot harder to misunderstand someone when you're hearing the tone and inflections of what they're saying.

 

Ding-ding-ding-ding-ding-ding!!!!! We have a winner!

 

This is why so man of us heartily and repeatedly recommend NOT relying on texting or online communication to get to know people and to spend actual time in each other's presence.

 

So much of a person's intention can be interpreted through voice inflections, body language, and sheer physicality.

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Than my friend told me to tell him that I don't think things will work out to see how he would react.

 

Silly games. How old are you? These little "tests" are a pet peeve of mine.

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While I agree with other posters...it seems like the problem is...

 

You're both very immature...not trying to be harsh but...why would you act like a b**** on the first date??? Even if you didnt like the guy theres no reason to act this way...be courteous then go your seperate ways.

 

He's acting like a child as well with these strange fb messages...

 

I dont think theres much hope for either of you in terms of cultivating a healthy relationship

 

Side note...never listen to these friends of yours again

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