Jameso Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 I made a post yesterday asking for advice about a girl I liked and how to sea with the situation and a couple of people offered some very helpful advice. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/582816-girl-troubles The link if anybody wants to check. Anyway, I'm 17 and I've decided to ask this girl out when we go back to school. Bearing in mind my age so I don't have that much money, what would be a good place for a date that would be romantic but not over the top. I had some ideas like Ice Skating/Bowling/Cinema/Theatre then a meal afterwards. When I've asked her about herself before (as a friend) she often talks about how she's a big fan of plays, but there probably won't be a suitable one on in time. I want to pick just the right activity to show her how much she means to me. Secondly, if she does say yes to me asking her, I don't know what I'll do if she doesn't because I won't be able to move on, is it romantic or a bit over the top to celebrate things like a 2 week or month anniversary of dating by getting her flowers or a necklace or something? She really does mean a lot to me. Thanks for any help you can give.
CarrieT Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 she often talks about how she's a big fan of plays, but there probably won't be a suitable one on in time. I want to pick just the right activity to show her how much she means to me. Look at a website called goldstar - dot- com. They exist in larger cities and offer local plays (and other activities) at a fraction of the cost. Secondly, if she does say yes to me asking her, I don't know what I'll do if she doesn't because I won't be able to move on Of course you will because it is high school and you have a world of dating and growing and loving ahead of you. is it romantic or a bit over the top to celebrate things like a 2 week or month anniversary of dating by getting her flowers or a necklace or something? No, it is not romantic to celebrate a two-week anniversary. It is clingy and desperate. Anniversaries happen on the ONE YEAR mark.
CarrieT Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 Take age into account here. I remember my high school GF gave me a card after we had been dating a month. I thought it was cute. Sure, a 40 year old doing the same thing won't get the same result, but young love? Different story. I understand that but read his back story - he already gave her jewelry and they aren't even dating. The OP needs to dial it back and actually get a date with her first... Then maybe - MAYBE - a one-month card (but not jewelry again!) 1
d0nnivain Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 The dates you have planned sound expensive. Going for a meal is 1 date, you don't have to combine it with the movies or another activity. When my husband & I were dating we went for ice cream at least once per week. We'd sit at the picnic tables & talk for hours. When school starts up again you can go on a date to the games. It's fine to mark anniversaries but save the jewelry for birthdays & Christmas. You don't want to come across as trying to buy her. For the 1 week anniversary words alone will be fine. 1 month a mix tape would be appropriate. For the 1 year mark make her a scrap book. Creativity more then money is the key, here.
angel.eyes Posted May 30, 2016 Posted May 30, 2016 Ice cream and a walk make a great date. In picking a date activity, you want to make sure you have an opportunity for one-on-one interaction. So, bowling is out. You get a defined time slot, and with only two people, one of you is always up bowling and the other is back You aren't sitting around chatting. Ditto for movies and plays as a first date. You can't hold a lengthy conversation while at a movie or play. Another great first date idea is an easy walk somewhere scenic and a picnic. There's also going for a meal together, but in this case, I might save that for later. In terms of anniversary gifts, maybe acknowledge the one-month mark, but nothing earlier. Keep it simple if you do. More importantly though, at this point focus on getting a date or two! You're jumping the gun by thinking about anniversaries. That's way too far in the future when you haven't even gotten a first date.
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