nirvanax90 Posted May 29, 2016 Posted May 29, 2016 been with this woman on and off for 2 years. she came back into my life after having no contact for about 6-8 months. I told her if we were going to be seeing each other again that I expect her to be completely single as I also am. she said she was in a wonderful place in her life and wanted to continue seeing me. the only reason I brought that up was because of the time apart we spent. so we jumped in a relationship again. 2 months ago we were seeing each other almost everday, we have a strong bond. we had a couple arguments during these 2 months but I was able to calm her down and talk because she loses her mind when she is angry. so my birthday was coming up and she was asking me what plans I had. if I wanted to have dinner or go on a road trip with her. the very same night we were suppose to plan this out we got into an argument and it came down to her telling me that there isn't enough for us to continue. she also told me she didnt know what she wanted and that she felt like we were spending too much time and she wasn't being herself. I told her that if that's the way she felt then It would be better to just leave it at that and continue with our lives. she told me that I could still come over and see her to which I replied that it would definitely not happen. once its over its over. I was feeling bummed out because she knew perfectly well my birthday was coming up and she decided to do this. I am definitely not thinking of contacting after this move. advice would be appreciated.
CarrieT Posted May 29, 2016 Posted May 29, 2016 I replied that it would definitely not happen. once its over its over. You did the right thing. It is over so it is time to block and go No Contact. There was a reason you were on-and-off for two years and it probably should have remained off.
Zapbasket Posted May 29, 2016 Posted May 29, 2016 Better before your birthday than right after. Often people know they want out, but then the other person's birthday is coming up, so they feel compelled to wait until after their birthday to break up. And while the birthday together might have seemed nice in the moment, after the break-up you have this nagging feeling that the whole time they were kissing you, telling you happy birthday, holding your hand and celebrating with you, they were in full knowledge that they were going to leave you. That's one heck of a crummy feeling, let me tell you. I know it sucks a different kind of suck when it's right before your birthday, too. But at least now you have a chance to celebrate with the real keepers in your life and mark the day as on meaningful step toward a new chapter in your life, along with a new year. 1
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