Dystopian Posted May 29, 2016 Posted May 29, 2016 Hello there. I've been in relationship for one year. We broke up 18 of April, I think. I initiated break up, she said fine, the things were getting very difficult and it was relationship on distance. She's from another city. Then after 2 days of no contact after our "finish" I've heard some stories that she didn't tell me from the past, i was so pissed that I had to message her and I told her:" I didn't know there are things u haven't told me". She was like, ahahaha, who knows something that i don't know? I didn't really wanna tell her what was going on, just poking. In the end of the argument, there were some words that cited the conciliation, like:"If we wanna make this happen again we must change some stuff, let it stay like this for a while ( no contact ) then we will see what. Four days passed and i messaged her, she was nervous, don't know why. My theory was that she was thinking about what happened, I literally wanted her back after i broke up. She didn't know what the hell was going on. She was rough a bit and she said i can't talk right now, then i exploded and said the things that I've heard from some people about her. The one was that she was flirting with one guy while we were in relationship, that was suspicious because i thought that so and she conviced me that nothing was between them even tho he gained some feelings for her. I know she didnt cheat on me. The other thing was her relationship that she didnt tell me about, it was 2 years ago, it wasnt long, but the fact is that she didnt tell me that. Even that dude confirmed that. After I said those things she told me, go and trust other people, and not me. You don't exist for me because you said something that no one would get over it, so I wouldn't too. Forget me and don't contact me anymore. She was caught up in lies in my theory. I haven't contacted her since then and I still miss her. Dunno what she wants, dunno what she feels. She is posting daily songs on Facebook, usually depressing songs about love, I was reading lyrics. My friend that she is in class with told me that she is pissed off every time I get mentioned, but they didn't talk about her and mine relationship. I don't wanna contact her first because I know I dont feel I'm guilty this time. She keeps posting "instagram direct pic" meaning she wants to chat with someone, Idk if she does it to make me jealous, or she wants me to like it so she can contact me. Her birthday is 21. June, I dont know if I should text her then, ask her something or initiate some kind of talk. She ignores me, I accidently sent her 8 likes on facebook on chat, my phone bugged ashell.. Said in short sentence what happened and said sorry. She didn't reply. Just seen. Any answer would be appreciated. Thanks
bummer Posted June 14, 2016 Posted June 14, 2016 You can't accidentally send her 8 likes. Be honest with yourself. Try real NC. like stay off social media, block, unfollow and or unfriend her? Don't message her first. Forget her. Get on with the grieving and get ready for the next girl. 1
Trinity7 Posted June 14, 2016 Posted June 14, 2016 Hey, I just wanted to reply real quick before I go to work-- I know how hard it is watching the number of post views go up, but not having anyone say anything The way your post hit me, I think that your first gut instinct to end things may have been the right move. When I've had the feeling that something shady was going on in the past and I ignored it, I've always regretted it later. Lies and flirting with other people are dealbreakers for me. Maybe try to focus on the negatives for a while and rethink if you really do want her back. I've had good luck in the past with making a list of all their cons, even petty stuff like "stares at me when I'm eating" and "breathes too loud during movies." lol.. Then read it over and over and try to get her off the pedestal. Once you can get rid of some of the emotional baggage, things may look different and you may not feel so strongly that she's the one for you. I'm sorry you're here. x
ExpatInItaly Posted June 14, 2016 Posted June 14, 2016 You broke up with her, and then discovered some things you didn't like. You expressed your anger to her. I don't imagine she'll be contacting you. In her mind, you are upset and done. She is probably assuming this is really the end and doesn't want to provoke you. What do you want?
whatnot Posted June 14, 2016 Posted June 14, 2016 It will always be tumultuous. Sometimes we can miss even that. Trusting friendship or zany irrationality. You're the only one who can decide what you're looking for. Good luck.
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