GWNN88 Posted May 29, 2016 Posted May 29, 2016 So i met this guy online we were talking for about 2 weeks before we met for our first date, all went well on our first date we both really hit things off and he said he would like to see me again, he even messaged me to see if i got home ok and then we didnt stop talking all that night and the day after... so things looked good and i asked maybe about meeting again for another date... he didnt say yes but then didnt really say no so i left it and waited for him to ask me when he was ready to.... things went quite didnt speak to me as much as he did before our date, he would message me randomly and a convo for a bit then nothing...all seem different to when we was first speaking. I thought maybe i was over thinking things it was only one date but i really like this guy and its the first guy ive really clicked with since my break up. I left things to see if he would message me than me going to him ....i was going on holiday the following week and i thought i would like to see him before i go if not then when i get back.... so i did message him saying: "I kinda get the hint that your not curious anymore but i did feel like we had really good chemistry and would of liked to enjoy continuing to see you, but do you feel the same way or are you more interested in a friendship or not even that?" ( the curious bit was him saying it alot to me so thats why i said that) he replied back saying..... "To be honest i was thinking to meet you again after our date which i thought went well, i started to feel pressure on me an on the situation. this was from some texts and questions that made me think and kind of changed my mind. im not on the dating site for find friends but same time especially after being in a long relationship i would like it to be easy going situations in which you can have a good time and fun and if we go along well also sex why not... between us i think we have kept the discussion really general first date and after that with messages we brought everything to serious level of convo missing a bit of fun and care freeness which to me is the beauty of meeting someone new..." I looked back on our convos and i really cant see where pressure was made it really confused me, i did reply back to him.... and i said at the end of my message "can we forget all the seriousness and start again from our first date? im going away tomorrow so you have all the time to think if you would like to or not." i know maybe i should of left it he doesnt seem interested anymore but i felt like i couldnt leave it like that when i like this guy and want to see if this can be resolved it just seems all so weird so soon after dating someone or just meeting them. he messaged back saying " that could be a good idea, have a good time and enjoy your holiday. Once i was back from my holiday he messaged me asking how it was and stuff... convos have been really short not asking me much random messages here and there but i still feel like hes not interested....what should i do? have i scared this guy of for doing nothing that i know of...is this hes polite way of saying i aint interested im really confused and i dont wanna straight out ask.....anyone got any advice i would grateful thanks. 1
kidm Posted May 29, 2016 Posted May 29, 2016 At the EXTREMELY early stage of dating, you don't need to be pleading with someone to date you or show interest. He's not ready for a relationship. From what you've described, sounds like he is looking for casual sex on his terms. I like how he said he is not looking for friends but someone to have a good time with and possibly sex. That's a friend with benefits situation. Is that what you're looking for? He doesn't seem interested because he's not. I wouldn't bother with this one. 1
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