Is it too harsh?

[crazylatina]

so ive been seeing this guy for a few years now nothing serious a fwb type of situation which is fine but the last few months it felt as if we were getting closer and more attached because of increased communication, visits, etc. then the other day i find a pic of him and another girl on the net. yes i was snooping cuz all of a sudden he wasnt replying like he used to, quickly and nicely, he would ignore my txt so i went on the troll and found the pic, talked to the girl, etc. Now im just pissed cuz i was so nice to this guy and feel like I got taken advantage of and im out for revenge, just cuz im tired of feeling like im easily taken advantage of. he just decided to date at the wrong time, or at least tell me. i asked him straight up if he was seeing anyone and he said no so i assumed he was single. now im about to report him to his job and the state dept so that he loses his license. Im gonna state he was drinking on the job. Multiple times. well im gonna pretend im someone else and report him. another girl he was sleeping with. from work as well. am i being too harsh?

[Scarlett.O'hara]

You want to destroy his life because??

 

You call him a fwb not a boyfriend so what is the issue? You were both free to see other people whenever you like.

 

If you wanted to be exclusive you should have told him that.

 

I think what you are considering doing is cruel and unjust.

[Jersey born raised]

First I understand you are hurt. I am a BS so I do understand but;

 

You cannot hold a person to a covert agreement which other than the lie it appears you are doing. Why exactly do you feel it is your business to know if he is dating other woman. Isn't that the point of FWB, to see other people?

 

Why do you think his work place would care about anything you might share?

 

I think FWB is a foolish concept in which one person will always get burned. I think open marriages are fools goal as well. Someone is always left needing the other person who is off with someone else. ALWAYS

 

Step back and look at yourself and go in a different direction.

[whichwayisup]

so ive been seeing this guy for a few years now nothing serious a fwb type of situation which is fine but the last few months it felt as if we were getting closer and more attached because of increased communication, visits, etc. then the other day i find a pic of him and another girl on the net. yes i was snooping cuz all of a sudden he wasnt replying like he used to, quickly and nicely, he would ignore my txt so i went on the troll and found the pic, talked to the girl, etc. Now im just pissed cuz i was so nice to this guy and feel like I got taken advantage of and im out for revenge, just cuz im tired of feeling like im easily taken advantage of. he just decided to date at the wrong time, or at least tell me. i asked him straight up if he was seeing anyone and he said no so i assumed he was single. now im about to report him to his job and the state dept so that he loses his license. Im gonna state he was drinking on the job. Multiple times. well im gonna pretend im someone else and report him. another girl he was sleeping with. from work as well. am i being too harsh?

 

Way too harsh and intentionally cruel too. You will ruin his life, professionally. It's one thing to out him to the woman he is seeing but LYING about him drinking on the job and reporting him will back fire. And it's wrong to do since you'd be lying. There's no proof, you say you'd pretend to be someone else (like who?) and if he has a great reputation at work, it's doubtful anybody will believe it anyway.

[privategal]

I really hope this is a troll.

This is ridiculous.

[hippychick3]

What you are proposing is infinitely worse than what he has done to you. It's on a whole different level...cruel and criminal.

 

You were never in an exclusive relationship with this guy. I understand you're hurt but use this as a lesson for yourself, NOT revenge on him. Next time, don't sleep with someone you're just casually dating. Only have sex in an exclusive and committed relationship.

[HeCantBreakMe]

I would say that is pretty harsh. He sounds like a player. I would just say wash your hands of him and move on. Count your lucky stars you aren't in it any deeper and move forward.

[salparadise]

seeing this guy for a few years now nothing serious a fwb type of situation...

 

im just pissed cuz i was so nice to this guy and feel like I got taken advantage of and im out for revenge

 

Ha, fwb with one-way expectations. How many men have you been with during this time? I know it's not the same thing, right?

[Survivor12]

:bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny:

[lana-banana]

You realize civilian employees can't be fired without an investigation, right? And any investigation would easily lead back to you? And unless you typed this from a public library there's evidence on a device you accessed, registered to your email address, with your stated intention to do this?

 

I won't even try to address the ethical side of this because if you're even considering it then you are so lacking in empathy and humanity that I can't help you. So I'll speak only to the rational side of why your idea is a terrible one. By asking the question you have already guaranteed you'd be caught. Congratulations.

[goodyblue]

Well, you are acting as though he were a terrible person. From your post I can surmise there was a terrible person in the arrangement but it wasn't him.

 

Grow up, move on and stop acting like this is Jr high. This is LIFE and you would be foolish to try to destroy his.

[loveisanaction]

Girl..Are you serious?

 

You were in a friends with benefits relationship with this guy, you weren't his girlfriend. You caught feelings for him and yes you caught feelings for him because that's the real reason why snooped on him. So, now you're mad because you saw pictures of him with another girl and you want to call up his job and lie against him so that you can destroy his career? Are you for real?

 

This is why i say majority of women are incapable of having NSA sex; they always catch feelings for the guy.

 

Geez!...You really put the spin on the term..Hell hath no fury...