Quokka Posted May 29, 2016 Posted May 29, 2016 Me and my ex girl work together. Help So I work with my ex-girlfriend. And It's really weird for me. I broke up with her twice. Each time we got back together. A week later after the last time she dumped me. She's a single Mother who is really busy and I was clingy and needy. I feel like this may be the main reason. When she dumped me she told me her life was like really hectic bc she's moving into a new house and a lot is going on and she needs have time to herself. She also said she's not saying it could never be work out but just not right now. I said some things on of frustration and I didn't really mean and she sent me a long paragraph basically pissed off at me. I didn't reply and two days later I texted her saying. "look I've had time to think about why you might've left me and I get it. I'm sorry for being needy and clingy instead of supporting you and also for saying hurtful things out of frustration. But I won't apologize for wanting you. Don't ask me to be just friends because I only want you romantically and if you can't do that right now that's fine but I will walk away from this. If you ever want to try to be civil and work things out just give me call. Just know that I really do care" And that was two days ago. She didn't reply. Since then we've worked together at the same times. It's obvious she's purposely avoiding me. She won't speak to me or look my direction. And I won't speak or look her way either. I've put on a front and acted the way I always do. Like I'm not even affected by our break up. I will not let her see depressed about this. I even flirted with waitresses and you could tell it was bugging her. I used to always wait for her to close the store and wait on her but today I just left without saying a word. My plan is really let her miss me. I've been doing no contact, acting like I'm happy, and just not giving a . But when I'm home alone at night. I cry and I cry a lot. I miss her so much. But I know from past experiences, calling, begging, pleading, and not giving her space will only push her away. My question is, am I doing everything correctly? I mean the ultimate goal is to get her back in my arms because I love her and her child who I have already met and she grew on me.
chatter Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Yea I think you need to accept the fact that the ship has sailed and shes not looking back. She has a child who is obviously her number 1 priority she certainly is not about to commit to a man who may make her feel that she has to baby sit too. Especially since yal have already broken up twice she doesn't need that kind of drama in her life with a kid. Let her go peacefully.
kgcolonel Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Personally, I do think you're doing a lot of things right however, try to think in terms of being classy and caring. DO NOT FLIRT IN FRONT OF HER....THIS IS UNDIGNIFIED AND DISRESPECTFUL. If you see her behind you as you walk through a door, hold the door open. Be positive and respectful as you would with an acquaintance. Don't go out of your way to intersect or interact with her but do not be rude. Just my thoughts.
Emilia Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Get another job, it sounds like it's just an ordinary hospitality one.
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