Girl troubles

[Jameso]

Well I'm 17 years old. I've had no girlfriend before, because I haven't felt attracted to any girls in my school until I met the girl I like now. We've been around each other since year 7...or grade 7 in USA I think. I just didn't notice how sweet and caring she was until September. I sincerely really like her. I didn't tell anybody that I felt this way so my friend who is a complete ass asked her out and the relationship didn't go well and she ended it with him. That was 2 months ago. Both me and her are quite quiet around school. Polite not just shy. But yesterday I made a mistake and told her how I cared for her to a huge extent as a friend and I bought her a necklace of something that I know is special to her but she wouldn't take it because "it's too much." It's not a huge issue, just if anybody could help me please. We're on half term from school now by the way so I won't see her for a week. Should I phone her and discuss this with her, let it slide, or move on! I sincerely like her, it's not lust. I like her because she is the most caring girl who I've met and we have so much in common (not too relevant but still). I know 2 months might seem long enough but he was her first girlfriend even if she didn't like him that much. Please don't mock me...

[Satu]

Nobody should mock you.

 

I think if I were you, I wouldn't go for any discussion about the necklace, etc.

 

I would just invite her to the movies, or some other fun activity.

 

Fortune favours the bold.

Just one comment:

 

I know you bought her the gift for all the best reasons, but save that kind of things for birthdays or other special occasions.

 

You sound like a very nice young man.

 

Good luck!

[CarrieT]

Yeah..... you shouldn't buy jewelry for someone you aren't formally in a relationship with yet. It WAS too much so I can understand why she turned it down.

 

Don't call her. Give her a chance to chill and have some space. A week is fine.

 

When you two go back to school, go back to being a nice guy and connecting slowly. Maybe just chat and text and see if you can build it from there and then ask her on a date.