grik Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 My girlfriend has been distant in a way we talked on Monday kind of went queit for about 3days i allowed no contact and she did come back and called. I asked why the distance and said she had a lot going on in her life at the moment.i asked if any of those things were about me or us because we recently got over stumble block in our relationship and she said no, after she said no it was like she ddnt think anything was wrong she even asked why and just told her what I was thinking she said she goin through a rough patch right now She opened up about how maybe she might lose her job because there's retrenchment going on at her place and like her daughter has to start going to school next year, she's the only provider to her daughter, she just wasn't herself sadness. I remember something like this happening when her sister was so sick I never heard from her in 2-3 days maybe thats how she deals with problems but iv always asked her to open up about anything i so can be there for her but neva really does My Problem or query comes when this happens She was tired because she had worked since morning I told her I missed her and I love her and to have a Goodnight but no response back just gud night to u to. it's been like that since our misunderstanding we had 2 weeks back, this week is the 1st things have been back to normal but no affection yet is it a time thing with her?or something else is happening? Today I want to call her and talk about all these burning issues I have about her but I do not want to stress her more I keep thinking maybe in time everything will be back to full flight since its just our 1st week we started acting all right Any Advise On What I Should Or Can Do?
GorillaTheater Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 What was this stumbling block/misunderstanding you two had a couple of weeks ago?
Author grik Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 She is very insecure so she kept thinking I'm losing interest in her and don't love her any more because I never wished her a mothers day that I do not appreciate her daughter when it wasn't true. i explained to her I had tried calling that day from 1200am ats when we usually talk for long and several times during the day she even saw my missed calls ,I actually wanted to tell her via call not text because I always text on our annevessary so wanted to do something different but every time I would call she didn't pick up so now and sometimes she would be online I ended also thinking maybe she doesn't want to hear from me and I stopped that's when she called the next day and told me she was called in the whole day and was super busy couldn't respond and making the claim I didn't love nomore
GorillaTheater Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 Okay, thanks for the information. At this point I'm not sure you have enough to be overly concerned with. Sure, there are some semi-weird dynamics in play, maybe some the ol' push-pull stuff that personally makes me a little tired after a while, but the best advice I can give you is to relax and observe. And, of course, if you take the really, really long view, it probably is a matter of time with her, given that most relationships eventually fail. But I don't think you're on the verge of that just yet.
Author grik Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 thanks a lot GorillaTheater You are welcome so like do you think I should call her about it or just give it a few days or so
GorillaTheater Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 thanks a lot GorillaTheater You are welcome so like do you think I should call her about it or just give it a few days or so Give it a few days. That's part of the "relax" thing I mentioned. If she really does have a lot on her mind, bugging her about this isn't going to go over too well. 1
Author grik Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 Okay I was also thinking of the same thing earlier but thank you for confirming I'll hang in there waiting for her Thank You GorillaTheater
mikeylo Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 If things are falling in place , what else do you want ? Yeah, you may want it to be back full blown love is in the air ,lol , but chill dude ! Take it slow to make it last ( no pun intended ,lol )
Author grik Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 lol I hear you mikeylo thanks for reply you know I keep thinking how she going through this hard time like stressing about her job and all like shouldn't I somehow try be there you know maybe call just to give her morale support find out how she doing let her know we in this together Do you think its a bad idea??
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