Tabby_Cat Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 So I’m a little confused about the intention of a friend’s boyfriend. When I say friend I mean really I see her at parties, but I’m by no means close friends with this girl. So I was at a party a week ago and as far as I knew this girl and this guy have been dating for like 6 years ever since they were in their senior year of high school. However they barely spoke to one another and even bickered a little bit during the night. I have to admit that when I first met the guy at a previous party I was immediately attracted to him, he is exactly my type and super friendly and fun. Anyways, he spent most of the night beside me talking to me and my close friends. So, after the party and two days later I get a facebook message from the guy saying “Hey it was nice seeing you this weekend, we should do it again sometime, here’s my cell number” and to me that sounds like something someone says to someone who they want to try and go on a date with! So for the past three days he has been texting me A LOT. He even sends me good morning texts. Now I’m not used to guys giving me this kind of attention unless I’m dating them or they plan on dating me/are interested, etc. Two of my best friends are guys and they do not text me like this. He even wants to go on a camping trip with me and some of our mutual friends despite his girlfriend(?) possibly not being able to go but he said he’s for sure going even though the girl knows me better than he does and has known me for much longer. So yeah I’m super confused. I’m wondering if he and this girl broke up recently and I just didn’t get the memo? Or maybe I’m over analyzing and he’s just very friendly, he does seem to have close female friends but still. I would never go out with him or do anything unless he was for sure single, but if he was single I would go out with him in a heartbeat. I feel like asking him or her if they are still dating would be awkward because I don’t want to assume anything, maybe I should just see what happens and maybe he just wants to be friends?
VeveCakes Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 Just ask him if he's single, not rocket science here. 1
Yookie Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 Don't set yourself up for the drama that is sure to come with this guy. Even if he suddenly broke up with his girlfriend, he will be emotionally unavailable to begin a healthy new relationship for a while. Long term relationships tend to take a longer period for both parties to get fully disengaged. Even if he seems super eager to date you, chances are super high that you will just be the rebound.
smackie9 Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 First off, when this guy contacted you, you should have mentioned his GF right then and there. You are being selfish with your feeling for him, when you don't even know he is single or not. I bet money on it this guy is not broken up with his GF, or he would have said something about it. It's time to get off the tilt-a-whirl, and address this deal about his GF before it gets way out of hand. 2
smackie9 Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 BTW a guy that bombs you with affection is a player, this may not be his first affair.
Acerboy Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 Don't set yourself up for the drama that is sure to come with this guy. Even if he suddenly broke up with his girlfriend, he will be emotionally unavailable to begin a healthy new relationship for a while. Long term relationships tend to take a longer period for both parties to get fully disengaged. Even if he seems super eager to date you, chances are super high that you will just be the rebound. Come on! You don't know that! I don't like posting here but sometimes some of the advice here are like just random. Like some copy and paste advice. Ditch him/her. He/she is full of drama. Run etc etc. No wonder most of you have a lot of unsuccessful relationships OP, simply ask him if he is single or not. What you are describing is someone who likes you. Now whether that kind of likeness is genuine is what you have to find out. If you like him too ask if he is single and continue from there. Drama??? Got my eyes rolling!
HillValley Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 You know nothing about who this guy really is. Your infatuation is projecting a personality onto him because he was friendly. No one just gets out of a six year relationship without drama. Your definition of single may not be what his is at this point and time. You can take the lead and hang out with him, not some place like a camping trip, but a cafe and get the answers you want.
d0nnivain Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 Respond back that you would love to see him & his GF again at the next party. Make sure you identify her by name in your reply. A good guy whose intentions are pure will respond enthusiastically or tell you that they broke up. Any other response & he's a cad at best. Remember if he will cheat with you, he will cheat on you. 2
preraph Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 yeah, you're being awfully covert and I don't know why. You could ask him AND ask her if they broke up and find out what you need to know. Ask him first and then her. See if their stories match. Then you'll know exactly if he's fine or if he's a sneaky cheater and liar. 1
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